ResetDevice and Alt+Tab errors

[Nashobaoka]

AMD 5950X
Nvidia 2080 Super
AMD x570 motherboard

fresh Windows 10 with all current updates
fresh titanium install w/ current p99 files
dgVoodoo2 v78.2 (not sure if i installed this correctly do i replace the vanilla eqd3d .dll files or just drop the dgv2 d3d dll's in?)

tried all compatability modes
on/off full screen optimization

dbg.txt:
2022-04-23 03:14:35 Timezone: UTC-8h00m
2022-04-23 03:14:35 Loading graphics DLL.
2022-04-23 03:14:35 Parsing INI file .\eqclient.ini
2022-04-23 03:14:35 INI file .\eqclient.ini loaded.
2022-04-23 03:14:36 Initializing timers.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Checking critical files.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Initializing WinSock.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Enumerating 3D devices.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Found adapter #0 - NVIDIA GeForce RTX 2080 SUPER (17479.2.7.0008)
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Adapter #0 - NVIDIA GeForce RTX 2080 SUPER :
2022-04-23 03:14:39 32Bit = 1, D32 = 1, D24 = 1, D16 = 1
2022-04-23 03:14:39 16Bit(565) = 1, D32 = 1, D24 = 1, D16 = 1
2022-04-23 03:14:39 16Bit(1555) = 1, D32 = 1, D24 = 1, D16 = 1
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Initializing keypress handler.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Parsing INI file .\defaults.ini
2022-04-23 03:14:39 INI file .\defaults.ini loaded.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Loading keyboard tables.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Creating window.
2022-04-23 03:14:39 Checking display driver version.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Activating window.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Picking a default resolution, desktop is 3840 x 2160, 32 bits
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Ratio is 1.78
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Resolution was capped at 1280 x 720
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Resolution verified 1280 x 720, 32 bits ... diff was 1000 from 0 modes
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Resolution selected 1280 x 720, 32 bits
2022-04-23 03:14:40 CRender::InitDevice: Using 32bit mode.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 CRender::InitDevice: Using vsync 0.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 CRender::InitDevice: Using 24bit depth buffer with 8 bit stencil.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 CRender::InitDevice: HardwareTnL Enabled.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Using hardware vertex shaders.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Initializing render system.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Trilinear Mipmapping available.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Vertex Shader Version: 3.0
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Pixel Shader Version: 3.0
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Initializing engine internals.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 CRender::InitDevice completed successfully.
2022-04-23 03:14:40 Parsing INI file ./eqlsUIConfig.ini
2022-04-23 03:14:40 INI file ./eqlsUIConfig.ini loaded.
2022-04-23 03:18:10 CRender::ResetDevice: Retrying without lockable backbuffer.
2022-04-23 03:18:10 CRender::ResetDevice: Reset failed.

The game will load and run in a window fine.
If I Alt+Enter while in windowed mode to switch to full screen or Alt+Tab i get the ResetDevice(0) error, if i Alt+Enter at the server selection screen to go full screen i get a memory access error [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]
the problem with windowed mode is the ui does not scale well with my 4k TV in 3840 x 2160p, i can barely see anything on the ui at that resolution , exiting the game causes a black screen crash and hangs the app, where i have to logout of windows to fix it.
Forcing the game to run fullscreen works until i attempt to enter world on any character which crashes the game immediately
only things i can think of is maybe a file is corrupt or security settings are being problematic.

I will try a titanium resinstall to a different location than ProgramFiles(x86) after posting this