Serious question about Love, Sex, Romance & Relationships, adults only

[dredge]

Well, I hear what your saying and we do all that aggressive play too sometimes, not all the time, but it's a separate activity that takes place in the bedroom. I take off my "Dom" role when I leave the bedroom. Our sex life is great, We get super freaky, but it seems like a chore to get initiated at times.

and whipping out my junk is what started this frustration in the first place because lately I whip it out and get a "not now, sorry I'm not in the mood" answer.