Dating thread

[loramin]

Originally Posted by NopeNopeNopeNope [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I think the problem with a thread like this being dead is that too many men, including men here, have decided to throw in the towel for possibly the rest of their damn lives when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship with another human. Not saying marriage, btw, not saying kids. Just some form of romance, even if it’s brief. Or anything more too

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So I’m at work and can’t expand on this but I don’t think that kind of life will be as fulfilling as they think it will. Nor do I find any of the reasons I’ve heard for doing so compelling

Many nerds (EQ nerds, D&D nerds, Warhammer nerds, etc.) have social and/or mental issues, myself included. That shit can make you fail at relationships more than most people, which then can make you not want to even try ... but I think it's more that, not that people really want to be alone.

Personally, I consider myself very lucky: I have some personal shit, but I still managed to meet, date, and marry the love of my life (who loves the real/flawed me ... and is also pretty hot [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]).

My advice to any "nerds with baggage" is that you have to think of it as a numbers game. Yeah, maybe that cute coffee shop girl you ask out will say no. Maybe the next ten or twenty will ... but eventually you're going to see "You have gotten better at hitting on women (2)", and also eventually one of them will say yes.

Again, the one that says yes probably won't be the "love you for life despite all your flaws" match. But if you date her, fail, and go date some more people, eventually you'll get better at both entering and staying in a relationship, and ultimately you'll find companionship. You just have to grind out those skill increases!