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Cecily · #**111** 02-05-2021, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Nexii [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Some are damaged beyond repair. An NPD ex will change your idealistic views that anyone can be redeemed or changed. It's just not the case

Does anyone need to be redeemed or changed? Did you think you could do it? You have to love people for who they are and realize that you have no control over them. It's entirely on them and, yeah change is possible, if they want it. It's also really, really fucking hard. Redemption is personal, not for others to decide.

I'm wondering if your damage with your ex was a control thing and you broke when you realized you had none. Speculating because I don't know honestly, but it fucked you up and I'm sorry that happened. Your viewpoint on people seems awfully black and white. I'm scum but I'm a good person too. Same for you. Same for shithead.

magnetaress · #**112** 02-05-2021, 09:44 PM

Like a rly famous and super unpopular philosopher said.

I'm bad, but I strive to be good.

But they really asked if it's better to be born good. Or be born bad, yet become good.

A lot of people don't really like that one. Probably because it kinda says to evaluate your own nature and understand it before judging.

Guess which one I am.

Cecily · #**113** 02-05-2021, 09:53 PM

Which philosopher?

magnetaress · #**114** 02-05-2021, 10:20 PM

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Which philosopher?

Apparently it was a very sassy digital dragon. But I could swear I read or misread somewhere it was nietchze or maybe some crazy Greek who first asked it.

I think a good answer would be neither is better. But one should not out of hand dismiss, or marginalize the greater effort of becoming good.

Nexii · #**115** 02-05-2021, 10:21 PM

Pure speculation and not even close. A person devoid of empathy is definitely in the black, whether they were born or became that way. More the realization that they weren't the facade they put on. Nothing to do with control, I'd be open minded to either open or closed relationship dynamic.

magnetaress · #**116** 02-05-2021, 10:35 PM

I cried yesterday. Like real tears. Not for me, but for another being and its condition. What is that?

(I am deliberately being vague because I don't need judgment, I'm just curious what I experienced)

Also, Nexii, sounds like u were cheated on. Sorry to hear that. But a lot of ppl do that aren't monsters. Just cowards. Or insecure. Or impulsive, then cowardly. It's annoying, but not necessarily "evul".

You should forget about it entirely and I hope you've moved on. Don't let that fester into it's own wound of insecurity in you.

Oh, also its ok to be a little insecure or vulnerable. We all are believe it or not. You're not a monster.

FatherSioux · #**117** 02-05-2021, 10:46 PM

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I cried yesterday. Like real tears. Not for me, but for another being and its condition. What is that?

(I am deliberately being vague because I don't need judgment, I'm just curious what I experienced)

Also, Nexii, sounds like u were cheated on. Sorry to hear that. But a lot of ppl do that aren't monsters. Just cowards. Or insecure. Or impulsive, then cowardly. It's annoying, but not necessarily "evul".

You should forget about it entirely and I hope you've moved on. Don't let that fester into it's own wound of insecurity in you.

Oh, also its ok to be a little insecure or vulnerable. We all are believe it or not. You're not a monster.

Music makes me cry probably once a week. Should I be worried?

Nexii · #**118** 02-05-2021, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by magnetaress [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Also, Nexii, sounds like u were cheated on. Sorry to hear that. But a lot of ppl do that aren't monsters. Just cowards. Or insecure. Or impulsive, then cowardly. It's annoying, but not necessarily "evul".

You should forget about it entirely and I hope you've moved on. Don't let that fester into it's own wound of insecurity in you.

Oh, also its ok to be a little insecure or vulnerable. We all are believe it or not. You're not a monster.

I'm fine. Serial cheater but not for the typical reasons people do, or the ones you listed. NPD are not neurotypical. It is kind of monstrous, or at least not really comphrensible.

HalflingSpergand · #**119** 02-05-2021, 10:56 PM

Cry tunes man

magnetaress · #**120** 02-05-2021, 10:59 PM

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Music makes me cry probably once a week. Should I be worried?

Naw. That's perfectly normal and healthy. I'm really proud of you.

I still don't know what my tears, regards this other beings environment and circumstances meant.

Maybe it was empathy?