what most of you will not understand

[DetroitVelvetSmooth]

Originally Posted by nilbog [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I posted in the wrong thread.

I'm letting it ride.

nah, rape is like super-bullying for grownups.

[stormlord]

Originally Posted by Daldolma [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I really didn't misunderstand your point. I don't think you're pity-mongering, I don't think you're sexist, and I don't think my response had any misogynist underpinnings. I didn't call you lazy or stupid. If anything, I'm trying to show you that a crippling fear of violent, anonymous rape is irrational. It's also untrue to say that men generally can't and don't understand that fear. 10% of reported rape victims are male, and I don't think it'd be irrational to assume that the incidence of reporting is lower for males than females.

44% of rape victims are under 18 years old; 80% are under 30. Two-thirds of rapes are committed by acquaintances. What does all that mean? Basically, that children and adolescents are the group most vulnerable, and that rape is generally not an "anytime, anywhere" type of crime. Whether or not the creepy guy at the gas station at midnight is a rapist, he's almost definitely not going to rape *you* as you pump your gas. You're far more likely to be raped by a guy you kind-of know from class and ask to drive you home from a party. Most rapists aren't 6'3, 240 pound 25-year olds that corner you in an alley. They're the 70-year old neighbor, the 55-year old priest, the geeky 30-year old math teacher, the kid from class, the guy from the club. They're either going to rape you as a child too young to defend yourself, or as a 20-something year old willingly putting yourself alone in a room or car with them. It's just not realistic to fear being shoved into a corner and raped as you go about your daily business.

So, back to my point -- there's no reason for you to sacrifice any of your independence. You don't need to stop going to Wal-Mart or fueling up at night. You don't need your boyfriend to go with you, either. If it's an overwhelming fear, you can carry a gun and eliminate it. But in reality, it's an irrational fear. Assuming you're no longer a child, if you're going to be raped, the overwhelming statistical likelihood is that it's going to be by someone you know. Which means that as long as you make an effort to not be alone with a guy you don't know very well, you don't have to worry about being raped anymore than you have to worry about being hit by a car. Look both ways when you cross the road, don't walk through a bad neighborhood at night, and don't worry.

By the way, I'm serious about the gun thing. A lot of women would be a lot better off if they owned one.

I'm with you. Agree 100%.

I know i don't know what it's like to fear rapists, but I know what it's like being a small guy in this world that's not good with people. Everyone thinks there' something wrong with me. I got teased so much in school there's probably a scar on my brain somewhere. I don't have bad thoughts about others. But I can just imagine walking dwon a city street minding my own business and a wife with 2 children is going to the supermarket and sees me and goes back into her house because she's afraid i'm some kind of rapist. I would just feel sorry for her. Maybe I should wear a star trek or wear a business suit or wear something that shows them I'm not a bad guy.

[Koota]

Originally Posted by Harrison [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

You may as well move the one you're talking about over to here. It's going to get bad when the crybabies wake up from their afternoon nap.

Fuck you. My nap was great.

[Harrison]

Originally Posted by Koota [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Fuck you. My nap was great.

It's funny, as I was posting that...Detroit went and bled his vagina all over the thread lol

WAAAH BULLIES WAAAH

[stormlord]

I just want to dispel fears because it's unwarranted. You don't know that guy is a bad guy so don't assume it. PUt yourself in my position. If I'm walking down the street or sitting on some steps reading a book or just standing leaning on a wall thinking about something I don't want to go about things thinking that every girl out there KNOWS i'm a pedophile or a soon-to-be-rapist. I don't got a bad bone in my body that would hurt you. I just want you to feel comfortable and be happy and when you're all bottled up inside your home worrying about that guy or that weird person or that rapist I want to scream some sense into you before you're so confused that oblivion swallows you up.

Knowledge is good. It's good to know if there's a sex offender living nextdoor. But there comes a point where you have to open the door and live your life not be afraid. That's why we have cops. It's why we have a standard. We look out for each other.

[stormlord]

Any star trek uniforms online? If us weirdos can put those on you would know we're the crazy kind of weirdos and not the rapist kind of weirdos.

Might help.

[DetroitVelvetSmooth]

Originally Posted by Harrison [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

It's funny, as I was posting that...Detroit went and bled his vagina all over the thread lol

WAAAH BULLIES WAAAH

read the thread, then join the legions of rational adults that hate fuzzy little douchebags in affliction tees. jesus...

[Harrison]

The only thing I'm seeing in that thread are a bunch of bitter crybabies who got picked on in school and still haven't gotten over it.

Some people in this world aren't thin-skinned, weak-willed, whiny vaginas. No reason to rage at them for something they didn't do to you.

[Azazel]

Originally Posted by Harrison [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

The only thing I'm seeing in that thread are a bunch of bitter crybabies who got picked on in school and still haven't gotten over it.

What, like how you still cry about getting bullied out of the manastone camp?

[Harrison]

We ended up keeping our camp. He failed.

You're a misinformed idiot.