25 Habits of Toxic People

[GnomeCaptain]

People aren't toxic, but behavior can be.

And when people behave in a toxic manner it reveals pain and frustration from other aspects of their life.

If you engage in toxic behavior, take a step back and reflect. Find the origin of your pain (likely repetitive judgment or tasks left undone or both) and improve yourself.

If someone else engages in toxic behavior, don't add to the unpleasantness, instead recognize they are in pain and don't seek to exacerbate it.

[Bboboo]

Originally Posted by Littul Jonn [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

- Gaslighting

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[bomaroast]

Any time I see the phrase "gaslighting" I know to ignore anything else that person says.

[Muggens]

Originally Posted by bomaroast [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Any time I see the phrase "gaslighting" I know to ignore anything else that person says.

whats that, lighting your farts on fire?

[bomaroast]

As far as I can tell, it means disagreeing with someone.

[Tethler]

Originally Posted by bomaroast [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

As far as I can tell, it means disagreeing with someone.

To knowingly and repeatedly lie until other people believe lie. I don't think it's gaslighting if the person legit believes what they are saying, even if it's incorrect. I think actual gaslighting is more about intent to deceive.

5-second wikipedia search:

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's belief.

[Wonkie]

Originally Posted by Tethler [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

To knowingly and repeatedly lie until other people believe lie. I don't think it's gaslighting if the person legit believes what they are saying, even if it's incorrect. I think actual gaslighting is more about intent to deceive.

5-second wikipedia search:

ok now try to prove intent. you can't.

sorry for disagreeing

[Tethler]

Originally Posted by Wonkie [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

ok now try to prove intent. you can't.

sorry for disagreeing

It's probably difficult or impossible to prove without a doubt. But in the cases where someone is presented with irrefutable evidence but continues the lie, one possibility is gaslighting (or some type of mental illness).

Or, when people admit their lie and intent after the fact.

But also, I'm not here to debate the details, I was just defining it, since people seem rather confused about something that can be clarified with a 5-second search.

[Wonkie]

Originally Posted by Tethler [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

It's probably difficult or impossible to prove without a doubt. But in the cases where someone is presented with irrefutable evidence but continues the lie, one possibility is gaslighting (or some type of mental illness).

Or, when people admit their lie and intent after the fact.

But also, I'm not here to debate the details, I was just defining it, since people seem rather confused about something that can be clarified with a 5-second search.

let's just agree to disagree

[Jimjam]

I don't even understand the etymology of the phrase let alone the intricacies of the definition.