Advice on life

[kjs86z]

work hard, eat clean, exercise, have sex

you'll be fine

[magnetaress]

Originally Posted by imperiouskitten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

if snortles ain't evil why is he mean af to me always? (oh yes, cuz im trans [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.] not neutral, he's a literal puppy stomper lol)

also don't mind thulian he's also evil, yet somehow more likeable

 

No one can hurt you.
If someone irritates you, it is only your own response that is irritating you.

Don't defend your reputation or intentions.
Don't be afraid of verbal abuse or criticism. Only the morally weak feel compelled to defend or explain themselves to others. Let the quality of your deeds speak on your behalf.

 

When I am psychologicaly healthy here, I play here. Even if someone was smashing my skull in with a rock, I could endure it, if I was in a proper frame of mind knowing that it is them, hurting themselves. Indeed when we try to kill or hurt aspects of the universe we don't like we are hurting and attacking the medium, the brain, the reality, within which we exist. I would not so easily allow this to come to pass by putting myself in a situation purposefully to allow this. Therefore, it would not be my fault, and I would be hard pressed to hurt myself or hate myself over it.

I'm not saying this to invalidate people, or myself. I truly believe that what I am and who I am is real and and it's important for me to acknowledge my truest self. That comes without the baggage of having to prove to anyone that I am a woman or female, it is unimportant to me, now, even if at one time it was important to prove such a thing. For example. And they could kill me for it, but it is not I who lose here, in reality, it is they who have extinguished the truth in their own universe. It is not so easy to do outside of words. Here at least, in experience I can be freerer, like they can. Life isn't so free, and the worst of human nature spoils it for us all, but one day, that could change. I am not wholey ready to wipe out all my opponents without mercy, but in a sense, I am, given the power to do so. But this is not what I seek. Though I struggle with it. Snortles is certainly on no list of mine. Beyond that of amusement. And sometimes pity. Or something else not quite pity, I think Snortles has found their nature, and is exploring it in the best of their capacity. I am beyond the chains of other peoples feelings and words and thoughts. Even deeds to some extent, almost one day I could be indeed free of it all. By seeking and attaining personal truth, power, and enlightenment, and not needing or sharing it with others, should that be my choice, or if in doing so, sharing it brought me joy, I would as well. I need not, not in the moment, do anything but pontificate here.

Granted all this said its safer for myself, and better for myself to not flaunt thyself and open thyself to attack and criticism. I used to believe here was a safer place. I will say it's not. But I am able to handle it. Many are not. Many can't even cope with the slightest verbal criticisms of their most base and crude ideas or feelings. This isn't a challenge, but no, no one here, on this forum can truly hurt me, with words and moving pictures and threats, certainly, unlikely if not at all. I wouldn't take the same cavalier approaches in person, because I am more tactful and respectful of peoples boundaries then that. And circumstances are different. My abilities are different. My safety is my own responsibility. I take risks here on the open forum that I otherwise wouldn't.

Originally Posted by kjs86z [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

work hard, eat clean, exercise, have sex

you'll be fine

Avoid sex as much as possible, even if you don't get a real STD peoples viral and biological fauna can infect u and slowly rot ur brain, don't catch cooties from anyone, no one is worthy of you.

[Tunabros]

Originally Posted by kjs86z [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

work hard, eat clean, exercise, have sex

you'll be fine

time to go alpha [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

[GinnasP99]

Forgiving him is not at all about making him change, it's about you letting go of your resentment and hatred towards him. Then you can actually live

[magnetaress]

There's truth to the forgiveness aspect. It has more to do with not blaming him, and taking ownership of your own flaws, not saying "my life sux because my dad X". And not focusing so much hateful attention or energy on him.

I didn't in person in face really forgive my dad, I spent a day with him and my sister at the mall and told him I didn't hate him. But that's really like the last time I deeply spoke with him. But I put a lot of personal intention into it. I prayed and meditated on forgiveness. I still don't think its safe for me to go near him and talk to him. But I am free, and in my mind he is forgiven. Some. I guess it's not an all at once process either.

In my youth I used that all as an excuse to torment him, which made me a worse person. Hurt me, more than it hurt him.

But it's not his fault my present condition is terrible. At all. I have had many years, and many chances to change that without him interfering.

[imperiouskitten]

Originally Posted by Tunabros [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

time to go alpha [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

yep sex is best cure. I was briefly stuck with a "man of the house" like you describe where I was living, and stayed up upstairs getting plowed most of the time. Psychological trauma was minimal!

now poast a pic, we can do pic4pic if it makes you feel more comfortable [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]


ps they are right about forgiving. in my experience forgetting is the best forgiveness! enmity rots ur brain

[BiG SiP]

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[Tunabros]

Originally Posted by imperiouskitten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

yep sex is best cure. I was briefly stuck with a "man of the house" like you describe where I was living, and stayed up upstairs getting plowed most of the time. Psychological trauma was minimal!

now poast a pic, we can do pic4pic if it makes you feel more comfortable [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

wait what?!

I only had sex like twice

didn't find it that enjoyable :/

Sorry but I'm not really comfortable sharing my personal details on the internet (no offense) but if you want a vague idea, just think of a young Taiwanese/Vietnamese guy who loves wearing flannels

also to everyone who responded thanks for all the kind words and words of advice (you too snortles), guess I overreacted a bit

Im not saying my life sucks balls. There are tons of people out there who would do anything to trade their life with mine. I am still grateful i live in a first world country and have access to many amenities

English isn't my first language (I know Chinese/Taiwanese/Japanese) so I might be playing as dumb trying to act smart using big words [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

[Topgunben]

Originally Posted by BiG SiP [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

i identify as chaotic neutral tyvm

This couldnt be more true. You are the epitome of Chaotic Neutral.

Do you play a half elf bard?

[imperiouskitten]

lol @ topgunben

Originally Posted by Tunabros [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

wait what?!

I only had sex like twice

didn't find it that enjoyable :/

Sorry but I'm not really comfortable sharing my personal details on the internet (no offense) but if you want a vague idea, just think of a young Taiwanese/Vietnamese guy who loves wearing flannels

also to everyone who responded thanks for all the kind words and words of advice (you too snortles), guess I overreacted a bit

Im not saying my life sucks balls. There are tons of people out there who would do anything to trade their life with mine. I am still grateful i live in a first world country and have access to many amenities

English isn't my first language (I know Chinese/Taiwanese/Japanese) so I might be playing as dumb trying to act smart using big words [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I knewwww it now i wanna see more

As for sex, it's more of an acquired taste than you might think. You'll find a person you're really comfortable with and gain a new perspective on it one day (it's the best), so don't despair about being underwhelmed. [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

life gets so much better between 22 and 30