Know your role

[unsunghero]

Originally Posted by Jibartik [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

When i was in highschool there was this girl I was into, she seemed to like real shitty people who treated her like shit.

She was my good friend, I was totally in the friendzone. So I started like negging her all the time, everything she said Id have some insulting comeback to make her the butt of the joke.

We were walking down the street one day and she starts looking at me different then says, idk what it is about you lately..

and we were in a relationship the next week.

I tried to get together with her for like 2 years treating her like the hero I believed she was lol

I’ve heard this echo’d a lot, that girls like guys who treat them like shit

I don’t like it, it runs contrary to my personality. Like I said, you have to revert back to yourself sometime. Can’t be fake around someone 100% of the time, that’s just weird

I think it is a benefit to seem cool and aloof rather than clingy. Playing hard to get tends to more for a guy than easy to get. But I think as women get older especially, they are less interested in jerks unless those jerks are hot and/or rich

[Basanos]

Originally Posted by unsunghero [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I’ve heard this echo’d a lot, that girls like guys who treat them like shit

I don’t like it, it runs contrary to my personality.

I've heard this too, but I have never directly observed it. I am with you. I can't be mean to people unless they are doing something outrageously bad. I've been accused of "running for mayor".

[Reiwa]

Originally Posted by Basanos [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I've heard this too, but I have never directly observed it. I am with you. I can't be mean to people unless they are doing something outrageously bad. I've been accused of "running for mayor".

Mild heckling vs meanness I think.

[Kaveh]

Originally Posted by unsunghero [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I’ve heard this echo’d a lot, that girls like guys who treat them like shit

I don’t like it, it runs contrary to my personality. Like I said, you have to revert back to yourself sometime. Can’t be fake around someone 100% of the time, that’s just weird

I think it is a benefit to seem cool and aloof rather than clingy. Playing hard to get tends to more for a guy than easy to get. But I think as women get older especially, they are less interested in jerks unless those jerks are hot and/or rich

You also don’t want a woman who likes being treated like shit

That’s daddy issues. You can’t turn a ho into a housewife. Did any of you guys have dads?

[Danth]

Originally Posted by Kaveh [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

You can’t turn a ho into a housewife.

It's curious how many people seem oblivious to that. Maybe desperation causes folks to lower their standards? If someone'll cheat on someone else, that someone will cheat on you just as readily. That applies to men and women both, works both ways. You should trust a cheat like you trust a scorpion--as something that will predictably act according to its nature because it knows no different.

[unsunghero]

Originally Posted by Danth [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

It's curious how many people seem oblivious to that. Maybe desperation causes folks to lower their standards? If someone'll cheat on someone else, that someone will cheat on you just as readily. That applies to men and women both, works both ways. You should trust a cheat like you trust a scorpion--as something that will predictably act according to its nature because it knows no different.

Completely agree. One I noticed, partly because I’ve done it too, is that everyone ultimately is going to act to some degree in their own self-interest. And this might mean keeping around a “back up” person as kind of a plan B while seeing someone else. As soon as things seem to be not working out with the original person, we start to kind of groom the “back up” person. For most people this grooming is not overt cheating, just becoming slightly more friendly towards them or maybe even communicating a tiny bit more frequently

I dunno why it is a comfort to have back ups. Maybe it’s a problem with me, but I don’t think I am nearly alone in it. I think unless you are a complete Chad you have been someone’s back up at one point. It’s not a great feeling, I know. Some people can’t handle it, and they freak out on the person who friendzoned them. I used to do this, but now with more confidence I have no problem with the idea of being a back up, as long as the person friendzoning me is considerably attractive enough

We tend to want to fuck up or across, not down, as Louis CK put it. So being friendzoned by someone you would see as a big step up to have sex with is more acceptable lol

[Kaveh]

Originally Posted by Danth [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

It's curious how many people seem oblivious to that. Maybe desperation causes folks to lower their standards? If someone'll cheat on someone else, that someone will cheat on you just as readily. That applies to men and women both, works both ways. You should trust a cheat like you trust a scorpion--as something that will predictably act according to its nature because it knows no different.

Yeah I hear “marriage ends in divorce 50% of the time, why would I do it!” A lot

The short answer is no reason to unless you want kids. The long answer is marriage is only as good as the people involved

[Chortles Snortles]

and then, everybody clapped

[unsunghero]

Originally Posted by Chortles Snortles [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

and then, everybody clapped

Everyone clapped after the girl was rude to me on bumble because I asked boring questions and ultimately ghosted me?

Damn quite a cruel crowd then huh. Next time read the post [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

[unsunghero]

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