Dating thread

[Duik]

Ugg. Me independant man. Must conform to what other men think a man is. Ugg.

I'd so go on a self date but when asked I'd say "Some twat/bitch told me to go fuck myself" so I decided to see how easy I was.
Like a self test.
Don't wanna act too slutty, especially on a first date.

Give yaself a break guys.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Duik [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Ugg. Me independant man. Must conform to what other men think a man is. Ugg.

I'd so go on a self date but when asked I'd say "Some twat/bitch told me to go fuck myself" so I decided to see how easy I was.

Well see THAT I would have sympathy for (being stood up). Even if the dude said “look I’ve never been on a date in my life so I’m doing a dry run here to try to practice some things I might want to say or do on a date”

I’d think ok that’s weird as shit but it almost makes sense. Probably better to try to pay your sister or something to role play your “date” in that scenario though so at least you would have a human reaction to gauge

But yea, sorry not sorry it’s pathetic (to me) for a dude to claim to be on a date with themselves and it’s more understandable self care when a woman does. Men and women are different, always were, always will be /shrug

[shovelquest]

I lived in a world where men said what men were and where boy and girls said what men were and tbh I prefer the former, and I like bards and elfs.

[Lune]

[Jimjam]

First impression: disappointment. Ngl. Thought the thread was gonna be about something cool like archaeology or palaeontology. Radiocarbon dating and stuff. Nevermind.

Thread did deliver some entertainment. Lol going somewhere by yourself is now ‘selfdating’? Imagine being so insecure that you can’t go somewhere alone without turning it into a whole big thing. Still, good for them to reframe it into something they can engage with positively instead of being bored and lonely.

I’m just being catty cos I’ve been a bit under the weather for the past few days. Starting to feel a bit better, but yea sorry for any recent grumpposting.

Re solo activities I quite enjoy packing a small back pack with some dehydrated drinks and foods, a thermos of hot water and just seeing where my bike takes me. Always pack some waterproofs and warms too just in case. There are usually decent spots off the waterways for an impromptu picnic.

Social ‘dates’, i’ve joined a warhammer campaign so we meet up at the warhammer hq monthly. Always a good time there. Dnd online weekly.

Romantic dates monday night pub and Thursday day trips with the wife. I skipped yesterday cos I needed the rest. Hope to be well enough for a day out this week though!

Probably valentines will be at home as we’ll go out on Thursday.

What yall cooking up for Cupid?

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Jimjam [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

First impression: disappointment. Ngl. Thought the thread was gonna be about something cool like archaeology or palaeontology. Radiocarbon dating and stuff. Nevermind.

Thread did deliver some entertainment. Lol going somewhere by yourself is now ‘selfdating’? Imagine being so insecure that you can’t go somewhere alone without turning it into a whole big thing. Still, good for them to reframe it into something they can engage with positively instead of being bored and lonely.

I’m just being catty cos I’ve been a bit under the weather for the past few days. Starting to feel a bit better, but yea sorry for any recent grumpposting.

Re solo activities I quite enjoy packing a small back pack with some dehydrated drinks and foods, a thermos of hot water and just seeing where my bike takes me. Always pack some waterproofs and warms too just in case. There are usually decent spots off the waterways for an impromptu picnic.

Social ‘dates’, i’ve joined a warhammer campaign so we meet up at the warhammer hq monthly. Always a good time there. Dnd online weekly.

Romantic dates monday night pub and Thursday day trips with the wife. I skipped yesterday cos I needed the rest. Hope to be well enough for a day out this week though!

Probably valentines will be at home as we’ll go out on Thursday.

What yall cooking up for Cupid?

Your solo activities sound like a damn good time [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I think the problem with a thread like this being dead is that too many men, including men here, have decided to throw in the towel for possibly the rest of their damn lives when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship with another human. Not saying marriage, btw, not saying kids. Just some form of romance, even if it’s brief. Or anything more too

Now can that be done in a fulfilling way? Sure! It’s not as easy or as fulfilling I think as people might claim, but I can’t jump inside their heads to confirm. I do know we are very good at being like:

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About our decisions, Lol

So I’m at work and can’t expand on this but I don’t think that kind of life will be as fulfilling as they think it will. Nor do I find any of the reasons I’ve heard for doing so compelling

[Botten]

Originally Posted by NopeNopeNopeNope [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I think the problem with a thread like this being dead is that too many men, including men here, have decided to throw in the towel for possibly the rest of their damn lives when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship with another human. Not saying marriage, btw, not saying kids. Just some form of romance, even if it’s brief. Or anything more too..

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You are the right combination of success, personality and ethnicity to get what you want.

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there. There will be a lot.

But if you can weed through the sheer number of those girls looking for love their you can find one that will have the eastern mentality. The mentality of devotion and belief in family. Just be careful thou this culture easily gets home sick (so expect many visits... for her).

And even if you weren't looking for romance do you know the sheer number of American men that have fathered children over in the Philippines and have little to no interaction with their kids? It is crazy.

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

But I think you are missing out. Just again be careful.

In this day I can't believe when a man in West says it is impossible to find commitment.
Believe me there is no reason why you must limit yourself to Western beliefs (unless you are very religious).

There are a lot of woman looking.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You are the right combination of success, personality and ethnicity to get what you want.

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there. There will be a lot.

But if you can weed through the sheer number of those girls looking for love their you can find one that will have the eastern mentality. The mentality of devotion and belief in family. Just be careful thou this culture easily gets home sick (so expect many visits... for her).

And even if you weren't looking for romance do you know the sheer number of American men that have fathered children over in the Philippines and have little to no interaction with their kids? It is crazy.

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

But I think you are missing out. Just again be careful.

In this day I can't believe when a man in West says it is impossible to find commitment.
Believe me there is no reason why you must limit yourself to Western beliefs (unless you are very religious).

There are a lot of woman looking.

Well said! Yea there can be an entirely different experience dating in different cultures

And there are tons of women out there. Yes the odds can be stacked against men with dating apps because there are more men than women, allowing women to be a bit more selective. But just because something has some challenge isn’t a reason to give up on the entire idea of dating. I can see giving up on apps but there are other ways to still meet people as you mentioned

I’ll offer a recent example:

I didn’t post about it but about 3 weeks ago I met a girl from Match at a coffee shop. I like to often pick coffee as a first date because it’s cheap. I always pick up the tab on dates and that gets expensive when dining out. But two $5 coffees? No problem, I gotchu, fam

So I meet this girl who didn’t have a lot on her profile. She was thin to medium build. Decent looking in the face. And we get to talking. And she comes right out with “I’m a bit of a computer nerd. I work in IT on cybersecurity, and in my free time I LOOOOVVE playing Final Fantasy 14”

I remember thinking look at this a computer nerd girl. Now my standards are kind of stupid high (very pretty girls only for NopeNopeNopeNope) so I ended up not following up after the first date because I wasn’t into her look enough. But I guarantee a lot of the lonely nerds online would have been ALL ABOUT this girl

There’s a lotta girls out there (depending on where you live) with a lot of different personalities or interests

And even if a date doesn’t work out, which happens a LOT, it’s still nice to meet people and hear their stories, I often end up learning something. Like this last girl I mentioned talked about how she had to bust an employee for surfing porn on his work phone. Because I had asked her “I bet you find some wild stuff on people’s electronics doing IT huh?” And her stories were entertaining

And like Loramin mentioned, it’s good practice even when it doesn’t work out

[shovelquest]

Originally Posted by NopeNopeNopeNope [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Well said!

No it wasn't he's telling you to buy a russian bride.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

I actually had a couple clients at work talk about their arranged marriages, all successes

And I understand them better now. I can totally see how they work [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]