relationship advice

[AzzarTheGod]

Originally Posted by Wonkie [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Hi, been a lurker in this section and didn't really have the courage to post, but I'm at my wits end with my girlfriend (let's call her Chris) and her immature behavior.

Some background: So I first met Chris in a group of friends. She was fun, tomboyish, smart, and well-versed on the internet which I found particularly striking. She spends a lot of time on reddit, 4chan, and knowyourmeme. At first I found this hobby mutual as I'm a frequent internet user myself, except I started noticing that Chris would bring it into the real world.

For example, Chris has an obsession with memes. She has memes posted all over her wall and is very active on meme based forums. I understand they make her laugh and that it's not too concerning, but she brings up memes ALL the time. And I mean all the time. Even when we first started talking and flirting she'd bring up socially awkward penguin. At first it was cute, but then it got annoying fast when I realized she did this constantly.

My girlfriend doesn't abstain from meme usage, even when we're having sex. Whenever we spend this time together, she starts moaning doge memes like "such sex, wow" and it really kills the moment for me. Like really? Is that even close to appropriate? Maybe she wants to relieve the tension, but does she know when to draw the line? Even reading that over made me sick knowing that Chris is usually 100% serious about those things.

I tried bringing up her inappropriate usage of memes after my father died and she literally sends me advice animal memes that say 'don't be sad' but my dad just fucking died could you be more sensitive and not send me memes? I said that straight to her face yesterday and she started crying, and I feel awful but it was just really irritating for me.

Basically, every time I bring up her habit, guess what- she just brings up memes! It's impossible to fight with her reasonably and I'd hate to end our year long relationship over something so trivial like this and I need advice. Do I stick with her or not? The reaction to my dad's death was the final straw for me and I've been ignoring her messages, texts, which yes, do contain memes.

tl;dr: Girlfriend uses memes in real life, acts immature about them, and doesn't understand context... I'm really at my wit's end and need advice on if I should break or try to work this out. Please help.

You sound like a girl.

You knew who she was when you got together. Now you are bitching about it after you couldn't change her. This is textbook girl bullshit.

Grow the fuck up and accept her as it seems you have already invested a lot with her, and more importantly she has invested a lot in you. You can't be the one to initiate a breakup, you lost that right when you got serious with her.

[Tenlaar]

Originally Posted by AzzarTheGod [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

You can't be the one to initiate a breakup, you lost that right when you got serious with her.

The fuck is this stupidity? Dating somebody is automatically a lifelong commitment in your mind?

[AzzarTheGod]

Originally Posted by Tenlaar [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

The fuck is this stupidity? Dating somebody is automatically a lifelong commitment in your mind?

He has invested a lot of time with her and engaged in a monogamous relationship, a monogamous steady dating arrangement is one step before marriage, its pretty serious... so that isn't dating you fucking moron.

Dating is when you date and see other people. You know, actual dating. Not playing house.

You are a misogynist asshole.

[Tenlaar]

Originally Posted by AzzarTheGod [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

a monogamous steady dating arrangement...so that isn't dating you fucking moron.

Derp a derp.

[AzzarTheGod]

Originally Posted by Tenlaar [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Derp a derp.

You lose. Calling the referees to take a look at the plays I made.

I don't think anyone is going to agree with you that dating = steady and monogamous. Dating implies you are allowed to see other women.

Just take this L and walk. We'll hear from the refs in a bit on dating/steady/monogamous relationships.

[Jimjam]

Foster some new mutual interests. If all you have together is wasting significant chunks of your time on the internets (yay) then that's all you have.

Maybe take up smoking or something so you can talk about vapes? I don't know. There's not much to me.

[AzzarTheGod]

Originally Posted by Jimjam [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Foster some new mutual interests. If all you have together is wasting significant chunks of your time on the internets (yay) then that's all you have.

Maybe take up smoking or something so you can talk about vapes? I don't know. There's not much to me.

Finally somewhat legitimate advice.

I don't give a fuck what this guys problem is, he admitted he knew and connected with her through memes.

He connected with her through memes and invested with her anyway.

Let that sink in. Fuck this guy and his self-created problem.

[Tenlaar]

Your definition of dating is not universal. And regardless, I doubt that many people are going to agree with you that being in a relationship with somebody for a year means that you are no longer allowed to break up with them. Because, you know, that's incredibly stupid.

[AzzarTheGod]

Originally Posted by Tenlaar [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Your definition of dating is not universal. And regardless, I doubt that many people are going to agree with you that being in a relationship with somebody for a year means that you are no longer allowed to break up with them. Because, you know, that's incredibly stupid.

As if that changes the reason he is breaking up isn't incredibly stupid. You're still both misogynists regardless.

Some things are universal. I don't make the rules on dating, the mainstream does. You can't sit in your house and make up your own definition-- pretending the world doesn't exist, you poindexter.

[Tenlaar]

Originally Posted by AzzarTheGod [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

As if that changes the reason he is breaking up isn't incredibly stupid. You're still both misogynists regardless.

It doesn't really matter what the reason is. If somebody is not happy in a relationship then they have every right to leave it.

Some things are universal. I don't make the rules on dating, the mainstream does. You can't sit in your house and make up your own definition-- pretending the world doesn't exist, you poindexter.

You're the one making up your own firm definition of a nebulous concept here. Dating does not only mean seeing other people, and you yourself labeled their relationship as a "monogamous dating relationship" before you turned around and said it's not dating. If you asked somebody how long they have been with their girlfriend and they respond "We've been dating for two years now," would you berate that person for improperly defining their own relationship?