Time for me to head out, after this pull. - Page 14

Hollywood · #**131** 03-20-2014, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Tankdan [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

7th time reading that since starting here on P99 last week.

Did we forget to give a warning or something? You know, finding replacements and whatnot? I guess its better than just randomly dropping, which seems to happen even more frequently. My "never group with again" list keeps filling up.

I had some dick head get snotty with me because I asked him (in a non snotty way), if he had found a replacement [this is after he announced he had to leave in "five minutes"].
The reason? Because earlier in the day I had to leave the group for a bit, and I was unable to find a replacement for myself. This departure of mine was clearly stated in the beginning as well and when I left, they were in no way a broken group or unable to continue.

So the short of it was, I couldn't find a replacement for me, and thus he didn't feel he should have to either.

I guess fu**ing over a group to make a point that no one would have known you were making otherwise, it's a perfectly normal thing to do. And even more silly is that there was no point to make since the other person didn't intentionally do anything!

Shit is classic!

Erica · #**132** 03-20-2014, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Yonkec [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Can everyone supporting the OPs opinion please follow up my post by giving me all of their character's names? I want to add you to my list of people who I choose not to group with.

The point here isn't that if you have a life then we hate you. It is when you KNOW you are going to have to leave soon, but say nothing. That is extremely rude considering how long it can take a replacement to get to the group sometimes. This isn't WoW where you disband and in 5 seconds a new person teleports into the group. Most of the RL stuff isn't a huge surprise that you had no idea was going to happen and now you have to instantly leave the group.

Some examples of a bad reason to leave without warning: Going to bed because you have work in the morning, going to the movie theater when you had planned it out hours in advance, eating food at home around your regular time or out of the house with friends/family when it was planned in advance, picking your significant other or child up from X (unless you were not supposed to, but had just found out you need to now), friend or family showing up at the time you had planned in advance, etc etc.

Those examples above can become good reasons to leave without warning: Family or friends come over without warning, or you didn't have to pick up your significant other/child from X but suddenly something happened and now you have to do it, eating at a non regular time, spontaneously your family or friends want you to go out to eat with them, work called and wants you to come in early and you have to go to bed now instead of in a few hours, etc etc.

See the difference? One is the person being inconsiderate, and one is "RL happens". If something comes up, just tell the group and apologize for leaving so suddenly. If the people get upset about a legitimate RL thing causing you to suddenly leave, then they are being unreasonable. Everyone agrees RL > Gaming.... well, most people :P

And if you think the above is unreasonable, then please add me to your list: Karmina

Yonkec · #**133** 03-20-2014, 04:42 PM

So if I just secretly lie to everyone and tell them my newborn child just woke up unexpectedly and I need to dip it makes it ok? I know that is taking this to another extreme but how are we to descern the truth in these situations?

Unfortunately none of us actually know what is going on with most people and if they join and leave on their own schedule its an exercise in futility to try to control or influence that. I am not defending people who intentional fuck over a group nor ones that ask other people to run 12 zones across the game to join them only to /log because they are tired. I am only humored by people trying to treat this like something it is not, e.g. the OP. This is not a social contract with a bunch of people who have nothing better to do than play this game all day and thus can be reasonably held responsible when they decide not to. Why must each of us adhere to someone else's strict set of behavioral rules?

I will not treat this GAME as a higher priority than anything other than a wart in my real life, and I will never ever ask one of you to either. If we are not in agreement I will do the legwork for you all and make sure I don't group with you as my sense of humor would probably only cause issues.

Just remember I love all of you equally and wish you the best.

lecompte · #**134** 03-20-2014, 04:46 PM

@Erica: I think you have a very reasonable stance, but that wasn't the voiced stance of the OP. The OP took it to an extreme and that is what resulted in the fourteen page thread [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.].