Dating thread

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Other gal I’m dating has postponed twice now, but fate can’t keep us apart

Note: As a guy this is a terrible idea. Do NOT postpone or make things in any way remotely difficult. There are less girls on apps with far more options than guys have, meaning most are looking for any reason to ghost. As soon as things stop appearing like a fairytale for any reason, they are as gone as the wind. “That’s fine, I wouldn’t want to be with someone so fickle” is a stance I used to (and still) take. But I prefer to keep everything as fairytale as I can at least until the first date

It’s all about the first date. Nothing matters prior. Not how the photos look, not how the messages went. You either have chemistry on the first date or you don’t. But you have to get there to know. And that means keeping them from bailing until then. If they bail after the first date, who cares? You at least found out

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

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Oh and to follow up on this idea: nothing matters until the first date is there are two categories of letdowns I have personally experienced and heard from bro’s on Reddit (since no one is dating here….) as experiencing:

1. “I was catfished” - Usually ends up being in a minor way, like the girl is 20lbs heavier or like 3-4 years older than her photos. “Catfish” is a broad term and not meaning the scammer version that happens only online

2. “Oh my God I feel so sad she ghosted, we seemed perfect for each other in our messages. She said she read the same books as me and even recognized the quote I used! We seemed like kindred spirits!” - Versions of this without the details I have heard a few times on Reddit. I even had some naive young bro’s try to claim they were bf/gf despite them only having messaged for a few weeks/months and not met in person (usually due to schedules or distance)


The way to protect against either of these letdowns is to adopt a mentality of nothing matters until the first date. Don’t get hung up on how pretty she is or how great the messaging has gone. Don’t build things up in your mind. If the first date goes great, and there’s chemistry, and she’s still in touch after, then feel free to get emotionally invested and start building things up. NOT PRIOR

[shovelquest]

(since no one is dating here….)

have fun on your date, Gabe.

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Was I wrong? [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Edit: actually I was because there’s some married couples here who go out on dates I believe. Maybe they don’t call them that but it’s good they still do them. I am not a relationship expert but I think a good way to fight for a relationship is never stop dating (your spouse)

[Reiwa]

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Been around for a long time.

You get to know a few.

A thread was buried after a grave seeker had a number of edits with colorful responses before settling on a more civil statement to my post.. followed by a report (must of hit a nerve).

And since…

“The staff does not and can not read every post or thread. If you spot a post or thread that violates the above rules...”

The rest can be divulged.

Side Note: None, should have a second forum account. I don’t. With that aside, I didn’t know a select few can see IPs on the forum.

Either way leaving this for the Wee Harvester obsesser batting rocks from his glass house.

https://www.project1999.com/forums/s...&postcount=246

Horaz was right then.

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Not sure why this was recommended to me as I’ve never heard of this YouTuber before

But this video is a perfect demonstration that girls with no social skills sound just like guys with no social skills

And also a perfect reason why I prefer to just ghost someone rather than reject them with the polite “I’m sorry, just not feeling a connection” yadda yadda. Some people take rejection well, some definitely don’t. And rejecting gives the ones that don’t a reason to argue

With ghosting, you can always just pretend I loved you but died in a fiery car wreck on the way home. That’s what I do with the girls that ghost me [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

(Mega cringe in this, may want to put on a lead smock first…)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=

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Ok I listened to more of that vid and had to keep from laughing out loud at the gym at the absurdity

I’ve heard (in my job) countless reports of spouses after divorce or bf/gf after breakups threaten [self-deletion]. If there’s a police request for an adult there’s about a 15% chance it’s that. The panicked heater of the threat calls police because it’s doing the right thing and it’s all the layperson is going to think of to do

But threatening to fade to black over a date rejection?? That is next level. And one of the messages the girl said she’s going to randomly block you and probably beat you? Sign me up! Just belt me in the face randomly, that won’t make me all twitchy and weird

I have never experienced anything close to that kind of communication personally. It makes me wonder is that Indian chick Mindy from The Office writing these messages and they’re fake? I remember hearing she was a writer for the office. And her character often threatened to kill herself. Or said she was pregnant

So I’m not discounting the possibility those messages are fake

[shovelquest]

My new favoirte youtuber did a video about your new favorite youtuber NOPE

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

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Some funny and based commentary from both

Some things that give an indication that these were all women with no social skills:

- I noticed in some of the pics the double checkmark below the message. I believe that’s Tinder. I haven’t used Tinder in a long time but if I recall it’s a checkmark to show the message was sent and another to show it was read. Other apps don’t use the double checkmark. Girls on Tinder are more likely to be dumb, mentally ill, unemployed, and/or drug addicts than girls on other apps. Shoot, the last girl I had met on Tinder had me driving her to do cocaine deals on our second date (and we hooked up on the first and 2nd). But it’s still better than Plenty of Fish where the girls are all the same as above except more than 50% are bots and scammers because it’s free to use. Paying for dating apps sucks, but you do tend to get far less bots and scammers on there. And having to pay ensures that there’s far more functional professionally employed adults and less unemployed weirdos

- I notice some mentions of things like Star Wars and other nerd culture stuff. Leading me to believe that a good chunk of these might be girls on the ASD spectrum lending credence to statements like “I hope you die in a fire” or “I hope you kill yourself” after a bad first date or rejection. Most functional adults simply don’t talk like that to strangers. Also, I’m guessing the date went “bad” in no small part because the girl on the date (and maybe the guy too, who knows) has the social skills of an 11 year old

[Reiwa]

Originally Posted by shovelquest [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

My new favoirte youtuber did a video about your new favorite youtuber NOPE

What type of monster is his avatar supposed to be?