Paladin Charisma or Stamina

[pokishi]

Putting your points into Cha only helps if you plan on being your groups primary puller or if your soloing. Since you're going with an elf, I wouldn't even bother with it, as their Cha is already sufficient.
If you can mildly twink your Pally out, then I would probably throw your points into Wis. A higher mana pool is always a plus. Your gear is going to address your hp, ac, str and sta so you aren't always going to add to your wis/mana numbers until you get some higher end stuff, whether thru raiding or paying lots of plat.

[sajbert]

Don’t need to be a primary puller for it to be worthwhile in a group. Lull can allow for breaking a camp or getting to location all that much quicker. Sure, a cleric may be able to lull too but ir cleric dies there’ll be no one to res them barring a high level paladin or another cleric.