Would anyone want to be my "Enchanter Mentor"?

[greenspectre]

Just power through. As somebody above said, learn one thing at a time.

I used the qeynos water trick when it was active to get to 12, ducking into the sewers at night to get my INT earrings, then moved to wisps in NK to learn to gauge the strength of my animation pet in fights.

Lavastorm by Najena ZL was good to start getting my feet wet on charming at 16ish, and I did some Upper Guk groups as well to learn charm-pet tactics in groups.

Then around 20 I graduated to Oasis Crocs to learn reverse charming and got it down pretty good. I'd highly recommend that spot to cut your teeth since crocs don't aggro and you have plenty of space to move around.

Chanter is only 22 now, so not exactly an expert here, but that was just my experience.