😭 I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life

[maskedmelon]

fwiw, there are plenty of people who have a hard time saying no or asserting themselves and they are vulnerable to exploitation. i don't see this as a male-female issue though, nor do I see it as something easily resolved.

in general, if a man invites you back to his place alone at night, he wants to fuck you, whether or not he has asked where you would liek him to fuck you. best solution is to not enter those situations if you have a hard time declining. Say no before you get to that point, make excuses that you gotta be somewhere or something, or make sure that you bring a friend (who's more assertive than you!) whenever you go out to meet people.