Question for the transgender people on this forum

[maskedmelon]

Originally Posted by CorndogJr [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I think its a mental disorder. So what? So is depression. So is anxiety. Neither one of those would stop me from being friends with, or at least kind to, someone.

If all I need to do in order to give a fellow human being a little dignity is recognize them as the gender they identify as, what kind of asshole am I if I can't find it in my heart to do something so simple? It's like saying "please" or "thank you".

yeah, but you're not most people and that is the problem. No matter how wonderful it may feel to be accepted by one, it still hurts to be rejected by everyone else and the most damning part is that those grains of acceptance validate your feelings and foster hope where often there is none.

As Ceci said, many people do not transition until they have no other choice because it's not as simple as waltzing up to genie and saying, "make me a girl!" The cost is high and it only increases as you age. And it is not just monetary, the stigma means relationships are also a price and then even when there is no stigma, there is still a sense of loss you create for those closest to you.

Is it wrong for them to feel they've lost the person you were? or the person they thought you were? Is it wrong of you to not have made them better understand? is it wrong of them to be unable to reason their way out of millennia of ingrained programming that says 'a' and 'b' are fundamentally different and mutually exclusive things?

Bottom line is most people, including transgendered, are utterly incapable of rationalizing the condition and people can't be blamed for failing to understand or accept anymore than transgender people can be blamed for being transgender. It's a shitty situation.

It would be a wonderful world if everyone could accept everyone else, each pandering to every others sincerest desires and most basic needs, but that is not how people are. They are generally averse to things that are different. yeah, yeah, there are plenty of people who liek different, i do too, but that is different too.

Ultimately, possibility can make things infinitely more difficult, most especially when it is false. And it is false for many.

Therein lies my issue with pronouns and pandering to delusion. Maybe things change entirely once you finalize your transition with SRS, but I am disinclined to believe it is so. There will always be reminders of what you are, the path you've taken and the prices you've paid.

Does that mean I'll be able to forever keep my feet from the path or be any better for it? No, it just means that I've embraced a familiar misery over an unfamiliar one.

Maybe in the next century gene therapy and 3D printing will lead to better, more complete outcomes, but I honestly don't know that there is an ideal solution outside of being born differently.