When you're healing

[loramin]

I think the basic idea of having thick skin and not letting someone else ruin your fun is an excellent one. However, I also think you'll catch more bees with honey than with vinegar, ie. you'll be more successful dealing with everyone you meet on P99 if you assume the best about them rather than the worst.

That person who was out of range of the buff/heal? They probably didn't mean to be out of range, and it's likely they didn't even know that they were. Heck, non-casters may not even think about the fact that casters have a spell range, because it's not something they've ever experienced.

So, I'm not saying you should let anyone be rude to you, but if you respond with "sorry, I couldn't buff/heal you because you were out of range; please try to stay close when you expect a buff/heal" you'll get kicked from groups for defending yourself a lot less than if you respond with "screw you! I'm doing my job just fine, you're the screw-up" [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

[wulfenger]

Originally Posted by loramin [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I think the basic idea of having thick skin and not letting someone else ruin your fun is an excellent one. However, I also think you'll catch more bees with honey than with vinegar, ie. you'll be more successful dealing with everyone you meet on P99 if you assume the best about them rather than the worst.

That person who was out of range of the buff/heal? They probably didn't mean to be out of range, and it's likely they didn't even know that they were. Heck, non-casters may not even think about the fact that casters have a spell range, because it's not something they've ever experienced.

So, I'm not saying you should let anyone be rude to you, but if you respond with "sorry, I couldn't buff/heal you because you were out of range; please try to stay close when you expect a buff/heal" instead of "screw you I'm doing my job just fine, you're the screw-up" you'll get kicked from groups for defending yourself a lot less [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

The ladder comment is something I don't concern myself with. I give my reasoning and if the flame continues then I just say you won't get it if you continue being aggressive towards me. It's a legitimate situation and not everyone has the capacity to calm down. Thank you for the generalization though. I can tell you've had a couple situations that didn't go your way.

[loramin]

Originally Posted by wulfenger [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Thank you for the generalization though. I can tell you've had a couple situations that didn't go your way.

Heh, this server attracts some interesting folks from time to time.

Originally Posted by wulfenger [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

The ladder comment is something I don't concern myself with. I give my reasoning and if the flame continues then I just say you won't get it if you continue being aggressive towards me. It's a legitimate situation and not everyone has the capacity to calm down.

If someone continues to be a dick then absolutely, stop grouping with them, tell them to fuck off, or whatever.

All I'm saying is that, as long as you're dealing with someone who there's still hope for, and as long as you want to prioritize getting the response you want, then you should de-prioritize getting to respond the way you want. If you respond in a way that's the opposite of how their behavior is making you want to respond it will result in better outcomes for you (like more XP because your group stays together longer), even if it hurts to be nice to someone who's not being nice to you.

But then of course there are other things to care about besides just keeping your group together.

[wulfenger]

Originally Posted by loramin [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Heh, this server attracts some interesting folks from time to time.



If someone continues to be a dick then absolutely, stop grouping with them, tell them to fuck off, or whatever.

All I'm saying is that, as long as you're dealing with someone who there's still hope for, and as long as you want to prioritize getting the response you want, then you should de-prioritize getting to respond the way you want. If you respond in a way that's the opposite of how their behavior is making you want to respond it will result in better outcomes for you (like more XP because your group stays together longer), even if it hurts to be nice to someone who's not being nice to you.

But then of course there are other things to care about besides just keeping your group together.

I think you like to tell yourself you're a good person, but it's really not true at all. I reject your post and your attempt at "agreeing with me" for the sake of me agreeing with you.