Connecting to server problem

[Rhambuk]

I have a ton of ridiculous connectivity problems, heres a list!

1) After putting in my password the connecting please wait box pops up and
A.Fails and I have to hit enter escape enter to try my pw again, I usually have to do this 6 or 7 times.
B. It takes me to server select
2)Once I get past accountname/lpw
A.There are no servers listed
B.I hit connect wait 20 seconds and "unkown error" have to restart client
C.Continue to char select.
3)at char select..
A.There are no characters and i have to escape back to server screen
B. Nothing happens and I have to restart client
C. The load bar fills but doesn't go beyond that, have to restart client
4) at any point after I try to enter password screen tints white and I have to restart client.

On top of this I crash 1/3 every zone when server pop is under 500 when pop is over 700 I crash every zone, Can take me anywhere from 2-15 minutes to login including everytime I crash.

Curse my classic everquest addiction!