The Swipe Left Thread

[Irulan]

Ahhh so your cis-gay-femme-man?

I like you if that counts. Idk what's up with people. Grindr is really narcissistic.

If you're worried about weight. Bigger guys can date smaller women. I care waaay more about character / hygiene / habits in people (as if I should talk about habits lol). My first date was with a big guy, 250-300lb I want to say. And my previous ex was big.

Both those relationships failed because of totally non weight related reasons. Mostly because I am a nazi psychopath, but like maybe not terribly racist. But I care.

I am not keen on arbitrarily writing people off without physically getting to know and understand them. And even then I am pretty good at tolerance when I don't live immediately on top of them all the time.

So like. Do I despise people for the way they live yes. But that's me. It isn't personal. I don't automatically despise you because you have hypothyroidism. I would probably treat you kindly and respect your choice to leave it untreated.

My mom and sis both take synthroid and are no grecian athenas and I still enjoy their company. Obviously they aren't really sexually attractive to me.

With other people sexual attraction or objectification no matter how hot never seems to be enough to overcome the general avoidant feeling emotional and attachment issues I have.

It took me 5 years to become Js friend, and we started by beating the ever loving shit out of each other mentally. I am probably a better person, but thay is the primary urge and feeling I have initially with the general population. I am used to being rewarded by nice and abusive people like my dad. Who could be really nice and sweet. Anyway everyone thing is a threat / target. Grindr is a platform centered around sex, probably more the sex trade now that Craigslist and Tumblr got hammered into the ground.

Everyone seems or appears to be in total denial to myself because they all "must be pretending" to me. Everyone is an imposter, especially the ones that want cool and normal traditional relationships. Even if they "don't know it yet". I get angry at people who want me to get on their level and conform to their world view and expectations. It isn't physically possible.