Can't get past serve select

[Spongeboobsquirepants]

Guys, I want to play this game so bad, and have been wanting to for a loooong time, I gave up a couple months back and am tryin again. I believe I have found out a possibility to why I'm getting the error 1017, my internet connection isn't fast enough, im using Wild Blue which is just a little bit faster than dial-up. Can someone please help me get to the bottom of this. I've tried all other solutions, resolution change, tried windowed mode, I've checked my eqhost and all that stuff, I've installed and uninstalled 23 times, I've read on some other forums that my ping was to low (meaning crappy internet connection)
Mine currently reads:
Minimum - 1439ms, Maximum = 1994ms, Average 1596ms
I know ive done the setup right, so I'd like some different explanations and ideas rather than reinstall and check my eqhost carefully and go through the setup carefully, if I can't get things up and running within the next 3 days I guess I'm just gona give up, not worth 5 to 6 hours a day.