New Druid Advice from the experts

[Faywind]

Title says it. Looking for advice on starting a new Druid, have a few questions. I've searched around the forums and have most of my answers.

I will be playing very casually, almost exclusively solo due to unreliable consistent play in a session (lots of afking).

I'm pretty dead set on Human at this point for various reasons so I don't need help there. I've got most of my gear purchased already too for when I start.

I will be doing as much charm killing as I can, not super interested in quadding or root rott/nuke playstyle as I have a wizard for that already.

So my question is, where to put my starting stats? 25wis 5sta? Does it really matter?

When I eventually get to 30, what school should I specialize in?

Finally, should I focus on mainly +WIS gear? Maybe throw in some +hp and +mana?

Thanks in advance.