Dating thread

[Reiwa]

Post here when you go on dates.

[Botten]

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Went ice skating (one of my fav date activities) with a cute therapist a week ago, still dating her

Then 2 days ago went on a quick after work dinner date with this gorgeous 9/10 hot physical therapist. I mean she was model hot though, crazy that she’s single no kids. I had a fun engaging date, but I’m good enough at reading people to recognize she wasn’t really flirting, moreso just entertained/engaged (because I love convo and do it for a living so it’s ez). So despite having her number (most gals don’t want to give out numbers vs keeping things on apps because it’s more awkward when they have to ghost), I just sent and received the polite “thanks for coming, I had a lot of fun” text and then deleted her number. She never texted after the same sort of polite ty message from her. No need to reject, no need to block. I take my own leave

W-w-what if you’re wrong though? What if she was really into you and couldn’t show it and was waiting for you to follow up? Doesn’t matter. She was a bit too religious for even me. And getting dates with girls like that in my city of 2 million people is effortless. There’s an endless stream

[Lune]

gorgeous 9/10 hot physical therapist. I mean she was model hot though, crazy that she’s single no kids.

Because she's in a mountain of debt lol

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I went bowling on our 2nd date with the girl before last who I dated for like 8ish months. She worked in a luxury purse type of store

She gave me this cute award afterward she made on her computer. My username on the bowling screen was LAZER which she mispelled. I had kept the award up on my fridge for a while

Our server was some elf-looking dude so I called him Eldridge. That’s where that name on the bottom right came from. Her and I were both pretty drunk NGL

[shovelquest]

That is very cute.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
This was me and that gal at the Ren Fen last time it was in town, woulda been about a year ago now

Going to take the therapist (mental health not physical) to the Ren Fen this year methinks

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Kayaking always a great date idea, also a good workout so worth investing in one or two used ones

Tell the gal to make the picnic lunch and I handle all the rest (both yaks, all the gear, booze, driving to and from the lake). Then you can yak to your picnic spot and set up day camp

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

The therapist gal I’m dating I saw last sat for dinner, and she had an interesting story. It was recently her birthday (and I didn’t know but we haven’t been dating that long and I barely remember my mom’s birthday much less some random gal I started dating)

But anyway it was her birthday and she said she was in the bathroom and had lit a candle in there and her cat was stomping around the shelf the candle was on. And I already suspected I knew the outcome because we’ve all seen that Americas Funnest Home Videos clip where the cat lights its tail on fire accidentally

But hers was worse. The cat did light its tail on fire the same time it was looking at her. And it’s little cat brain make the split second association that SHE had somehow lit its tail on fire. And this perfectly well behaved for all its lifetime loving cat went into Fighting For My Life Attack Mode on her

She said the only reason her arms weren’t savaged was because she ripped the shower curtain rod off the wall and was using it to keep the cat back somewhat

She eventually was able to get away from it in a different room. Eventually after a while it apparently decided to stop holding a grudge, which surprised me. I had heard a story of a tiger in Russia that some dude wounded and that fucking Tiger stayed outside his house for like a day or more, bleeding, waiting for him to come out and tore him to shreds. Cats are vengeful creatures

Made me think of my cat Ernie. He has never play fought hard enough to even draw blood. He knows what’s up, he knows how to pull back. But now I wonder if he could have his MK ULTRA attack sequence initiated by something…

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I came across this article during the SnoozeBowl

This has to be written for chicks only because no dude is going to go on a date with himself I’m sorry. With his anime pillow maybe. I could see why it is more acceptable for women to do this form of self care. Because if I was a waiter and a gal told me I’d think oh that’s cute…But if a dude told me he was on a date with himself, I’d ask if he wants me to leave the other chair there so he can act like someone is coming so as to not look as much like a loser. Jk lol. Or am I

I wonder if this could turn into a MeToo story for women where she felt pressured into sex while on a date with herself. And afterwards she doesn’t know how she feels about it. Could get a lot of views and clout if you try both

[Duik]

Ugg. Me independant man. Must conform to what other men think a man is. Ugg.

I'd so go on a self date but when asked I'd say "Some twat/bitch told me to go fuck myself" so I decided to see how easy I was.
Like a self test.
Don't wanna act too slutty, especially on a first date.

Give yaself a break guys.

[shovelquest]

I lived in a world where men said what men were and where boy and girls said what men were and tbh I prefer the former, and I like bards and elfs.

[Lune]

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[Jimjam]

First impression: disappointment. Ngl. Thought the thread was gonna be about something cool like archaeology or palaeontology. Radiocarbon dating and stuff. Nevermind.

Thread did deliver some entertainment. Lol going somewhere by yourself is now ‘selfdating’? Imagine being so insecure that you can’t go somewhere alone without turning it into a whole big thing. Still, good for them to reframe it into something they can engage with positively instead of being bored and lonely.

I’m just being catty cos I’ve been a bit under the weather for the past few days. Starting to feel a bit better, but yea sorry for any recent grumpposting.

Re solo activities I quite enjoy packing a small back pack with some dehydrated drinks and foods, a thermos of hot water and just seeing where my bike takes me. Always pack some waterproofs and warms too just in case. There are usually decent spots off the waterways for an impromptu picnic.

Social ‘dates’, i’ve joined a warhammer campaign so we meet up at the warhammer hq monthly. Always a good time there. Dnd online weekly.

Romantic dates monday night pub and Thursday day trips with the wife. I skipped yesterday cos I needed the rest. Hope to be well enough for a day out this week though!

Probably valentines will be at home as we’ll go out on Thursday.

What yall cooking up for Cupid?

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Ugg. Me independant man. Must conform to what other men think a man is. Ugg.

I'd so go on a self date but when asked I'd say "Some twat/bitch told me to go fuck myself" so I decided to see how easy I was.


Well see THAT I would have sympathy for (being stood up). Even if the dude said “look I’ve never been on a date in my life so I’m doing a dry run here to try to practice some things I might want to say or do on a date”

I’d think ok that’s weird as shit but it almost makes sense. Probably better to try to pay your sister or something to role play your “date” in that scenario though so at least you would have a human reaction to gauge

But yea, sorry not sorry it’s pathetic (to me) for a dude to claim to be on a date with themselves and it’s more understandable self care when a woman does. Men and women are different, always were, always will be /shrug

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

First impression: disappointment. Ngl. Thought the thread was gonna be about something cool like archaeology or palaeontology. Radiocarbon dating and stuff. Nevermind.

Thread did deliver some entertainment. Lol going somewhere by yourself is now ‘selfdating’? Imagine being so insecure that you can’t go somewhere alone without turning it into a whole big thing. Still, good for them to reframe it into something they can engage with positively instead of being bored and lonely.

I’m just being catty cos I’ve been a bit under the weather for the past few days. Starting to feel a bit better, but yea sorry for any recent grumpposting.

Re solo activities I quite enjoy packing a small back pack with some dehydrated drinks and foods, a thermos of hot water and just seeing where my bike takes me. Always pack some waterproofs and warms too just in case. There are usually decent spots off the waterways for an impromptu picnic.

Social ‘dates’, i’ve joined a warhammer campaign so we meet up at the warhammer hq monthly. Always a good time there. Dnd online weekly.

Romantic dates monday night pub and Thursday day trips with the wife. I skipped yesterday cos I needed the rest. Hope to be well enough for a day out this week though!

Probably valentines will be at home as we’ll go out on Thursday.

What yall cooking up for Cupid?

Your solo activities sound like a damn good time :)

I think the problem with a thread like this being dead is that too many men, including men here, have decided to throw in the towel for possibly the rest of their damn lives when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship with another human. Not saying marriage, btw, not saying kids. Just some form of romance, even if it’s brief. Or anything more too

Now can that be done in a fulfilling way? Sure! It’s not as easy or as fulfilling I think as people might claim, but I can’t jump inside their heads to confirm. I do know we are very good at being like:

https://media.npr.org/assets/img/2023/01/14/this-is-fine_custom-b7c50c845a78f5d7716475a92016d52655ba3115.jpg

About our decisions, Lol

So I’m at work and can’t expand on this but I don’t think that kind of life will be as fulfilling as they think it will. Nor do I find any of the reasons I’ve heard for doing so compelling

[Botten]

I think the problem with a thread like this being dead is that too many men, including men here, have decided to throw in the towel for possibly the rest of their damn lives when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship with another human. Not saying marriage, btw, not saying kids. Just some form of romance, even if it’s brief. Or anything more too..

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You are the right combination of success, personality and ethnicity to get what you want.

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there. There will be a lot.

But if you can weed through the sheer number of those girls looking for love their you can find one that will have the eastern mentality. The mentality of devotion and belief in family. Just be careful thou this culture easily gets home sick (so expect many visits... for her).

And even if you weren't looking for romance do you know the sheer number of American men that have fathered children over in the Philippines and have little to no interaction with their kids? It is crazy.

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

But I think you are missing out. Just again be careful.

In this day I can't believe when a man in West says it is impossible to find commitment.
Believe me there is no reason why you must limit yourself to Western beliefs (unless you are very religious).

There are a lot of woman looking.

[loramin]

I think the problem with a thread like this being dead is that too many men, including men here, have decided to throw in the towel for possibly the rest of their damn lives when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship with another human. Not saying marriage, btw, not saying kids. Just some form of romance, even if it’s brief. Or anything more too

...

So I’m at work and can’t expand on this but I don’t think that kind of life will be as fulfilling as they think it will. Nor do I find any of the reasons I’ve heard for doing so compelling

Many nerds (EQ nerds, D&D nerds, Warhammer nerds, etc.) have social and/or mental issues, myself included. That shit can make you fail at relationships more than most people, which then can make you not want to even try ... but I think it's more that, not that people really want to be alone.

Personally, I consider myself very lucky: I have some personal shit, but I still managed to meet, date, and marry the love of my life (who loves the real/flawed me ... and is also pretty hot :D).

My advice to any "nerds with baggage" is that you have to think of it as a numbers game. Yeah, maybe that cute coffee shop girl you ask out will say no. Maybe the next ten or twenty will ... but eventually you're going to see "You have gotten better at hitting on women (2)", and also eventually one of them will say yes.

Again, the one that says yes probably won't be the "love you for life despite all your flaws" match. But if you date her, fail, and go date some more people, eventually you'll get better at both entering and staying in a relationship, and ultimately you'll find companionship. You just have to grind out those skill increases!

[Ekco]

which then can make you not want to even try ... but I think it's more that, not that people really want to be alone.


for the majority of nerds, 100%. idk the % but i have Counterdependency issues and dating someone who is codependent is legit dangerous, so even playing the numbers game isn't worth it due to the amount of single women who are codependent

some people really are better off alone.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Many nerds (EQ nerds, D&D nerds, Warhammer nerds, etc.) have social and/or mental issues, myself included. That shit can make you fail at relationships more than most people, which then can make you not want to even try ... but I think it's more that, not that people really want to be alone.

Personally, I consider myself very lucky: I have some personal shit, but I still managed to meet, date, and marry the love of my life (who loves the real/flawed me ... and is also pretty hot :D).

My advice to any "nerds with baggage" is that you have to think of it as a numbers game. Yeah, maybe that cute coffee shop girl you ask out will say no. Maybe the next ten or twenty will ... but eventually you're going to see "You have gotten better at hitting on women (2)", and also eventually one of them will say yes.

Again, the one that says yes probably won't be the "love you for life despite all your flaws" match. But if you date her, fail, and go date some more people, eventually you'll get better at both entering and staying in a relationship, and ultimately you'll find companionship. You just have to grind out those skill increases!

Well said, sir. And good on you to offer yourself as an example

Yea when I hear things like “I have this mental issue and have decided to arrange my entire life around it” I’m always frustrated because some of these issues are possible to if not get over, than to at least mitigate somewhat, through various methods

But some people try a few things, claim they’ve “tried everything” and then design their entire life around avoiding their issues

A good analogy is the DnD scenario with the treasure and the dragon. The reason those fantasy stories are compelling is that it’s not just some pile of the treasure in a cave. The main character has to face the most difficult and terrifying thing they’ve ever faced, a freaking dragon, in order to get that treasure. The dragon being an effective metaphor for one’s issues and insecurities holding them back

There’s an old quote I like that says something like “that which you want most will be found where you least want to look”

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You are the right combination of success, personality and ethnicity to get what you want.

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there. There will be a lot.

But if you can weed through the sheer number of those girls looking for love their you can find one that will have the eastern mentality. The mentality of devotion and belief in family. Just be careful thou this culture easily gets home sick (so expect many visits... for her).

And even if you weren't looking for romance do you know the sheer number of American men that have fathered children over in the Philippines and have little to no interaction with their kids? It is crazy.

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

But I think you are missing out. Just again be careful.

In this day I can't believe when a man in West says it is impossible to find commitment.
Believe me there is no reason why you must limit yourself to Western beliefs (unless you are very religious).

There are a lot of woman looking.

Well said! Yea there can be an entirely different experience dating in different cultures

And there are tons of women out there. Yes the odds can be stacked against men with dating apps because there are more men than women, allowing women to be a bit more selective. But just because something has some challenge isn’t a reason to give up on the entire idea of dating. I can see giving up on apps but there are other ways to still meet people as you mentioned

I’ll offer a recent example:

I didn’t post about it but about 3 weeks ago I met a girl from Match at a coffee shop. I like to often pick coffee as a first date because it’s cheap. I always pick up the tab on dates and that gets expensive when dining out. But two $5 coffees? No problem, I gotchu, fam

So I meet this girl who didn’t have a lot on her profile. She was thin to medium build. Decent looking in the face. And we get to talking. And she comes right out with “I’m a bit of a computer nerd. I work in IT on cybersecurity, and in my free time I LOOOOVVE playing Final Fantasy 14”

I remember thinking look at this a computer nerd girl. Now my standards are kind of stupid high (very pretty girls only for NopeNopeNopeNope) so I ended up not following up after the first date because I wasn’t into her look enough. But I guarantee a lot of the lonely nerds online would have been ALL ABOUT this girl

There’s a lotta girls out there (depending on where you live) with a lot of different personalities or interests

And even if a date doesn’t work out, which happens a LOT, it’s still nice to meet people and hear their stories, I often end up learning something. Like this last girl I mentioned talked about how she had to bust an employee for surfing porn on his work phone. Because I had asked her “I bet you find some wild stuff on people’s electronics doing IT huh?” And her stories were entertaining

And like Loramin mentioned, it’s good practice even when it doesn’t work out

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.



I actually had a couple clients at work talk about their arranged marriages, all successes

And I understand them better now. I can totally see how they work :)

[Ekco]

A good analogy is the DnD scenario with the treasure and the dragon. The reason those fantasy stories are compelling is that it’s not just some pile of the treasure in a cave. The main character has to face the most difficult and terrifying thing they’ve ever faced, a freaking dragon, in order to get that treasure. The dragon being an effective metaphor for one’s issues and insecurities holding them back

There’s an old quote I like that says something like “that which you want most will be found where you least want to look”

my fav DnD dragon analogy quote

“Fairy tales are more than true – not because they tell us dragons exist, but because they tell us dragons can be beaten.”

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Oh yea and Botten I don’t really travel but I could totally see meeting a girl abroad like Philippines or Thailand

Maybe one day but I am really not looking to settle down with anyone (and I worry that those girls might be). I am in my prime compared to how I was (own a home, best shape of my life, no real baggage) and am really just enjoying playing the field atm after a long hiatus

But yea, I would otherwise love to meet some girls abroad

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

my fav DnD dragon analogy quote

“Fairy tales are more than true – not because they tell us dragons exist, but because they tell us dragons can be beaten.”

Saving that one now too

[Jimjam]

Safety behaviors are behaviors that aim to reduce unpleasant emotions, and/or reduce negative consequences. Despite the intention behind safety behaviors, they have been found to increase or maintain anxiety (especially in the long term).


This is a recent study in Safety behaviors and positive emotions in social anxiety disorder: it found when social anxiety was high, safety behaviors were negatively associated with positive emotions. It also found interacting with distant others (vs. close others) resulted in more safety behaviors. (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0887618524000914)

[shovelquest]

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You've ruined your own lands, you'll not ruin mine!

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there.

Annnd there it is, sex tourism instead of finding a wife. You ruin lands.

[shovelquest]

Well said!

No it wasn't he's telling you to buy a russian bride.

[Ekco]

you're suppose to get paid by the father for taking his daughter off his hands, modern world has it ass backwards.

i want my two goats damnit.


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[shovelquest]

"I would like to marry a christian woman"

"HOLY SHIT that is racist not to mention transphobic, have you thought about going to thailand to fuck kids?"

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

"I would like to marry a christian woman"

"HOLY SHIT that is racist not to mention transphobic, have you thought about going to thailand to fuck kids?"

I can’t speak for Thailand, but here’s some interesting facts about Philippines:

“The Philippines is the largest exporter of nurses worldwide. For many decades, the country has consistently supplied nurses to the United States and Saudi Arabia”

A nurse average salary is around $86k here. So not all women in Philippines are poor and desperate

“English is widely spoken in the Philippines, with a large portion of the population being fluent in the language. It's one of the official languages of the country”

[shovelquest]

Have you tried being a colonizer? lmao smfh

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Have you tried being a colonizer? lmao smfh

Meh 2/10 troll lexicon. Colonizer doesn’t even make any sense. A better term would be “Passport bro”

But passport bro can also mean any men who prefer to date abroad. That doesn’t always mean dumpy-looking men over 40 who deliberately go to impoverished countries to try to lure much younger attractive women to the USA, although that is probably a decent-sized segment of passport bros

I appreciate the warnings though, but you don’t have to worry about that being me. Not only would I not need to go for some poor desperate girl, but it’s a stupid idea to begin with even for men who saw it as their only option. The girl is just gonna dump the dude and bolt as soon as she gets to the states. Or cheat on him like a bandit

[shovelquest]

ya got me.

Hey, colonizers aren't dumpy!

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

ya got me.

Hey, colonizers aren't dumpy!

Well when I picture colonizer I picture an American going there to stay. And no poor chick is gonna go for that

You ever seen that 90 Day fiancé? I used to watch that on YouTube. It’s all about that stuff, and there’s actually the reverse of gross looking older women who do the same thing on that show

But yea any time the dude is like “hey maybe I’ll stay here with you” the girl and/or her family is like “uhhhh no”

[Ekco]

depends on the spot, lot of white dudes in south korea and japan living there and dating asian girls.

edit: Japan does expect you to leave after your time being a english teacher is up though afaik

[Lune]

"Have you tried looking in a country where there is a massive and coercive economic inequality between you and the woman?"

jfc Botten lol

I married an equal. It's great. Would recommend.

[Reiwa]

“The Philippines is the largest exporter of nurses worldwide. For many decades, the country has consistently supplied nurses to the United States and Saudi Arabia”

Major part of TPP was to make the foreign nurse pipeline easier for everyone.

But some men simply want to watch the world burn.

[loramin]

edit: Japan does expect you to leave after your time being a english teacher is up though afaik

You are correct that it's extremely difficult for a foreigner to get a long term visa, let alone citizenship, in Japan ... with the one exception being if you marry a nice Japanese girl :D

(From what I've heard though, even then it's a giant PITA; Japan is still very xenophobic in a lot of ways.)

[Ekco]

yeah i don't expect citizenship, i just want a long term visa to live in one of those cheap houses in a ghost town village

[shovelquest]

(From what I've heard though, Japan is still very xenophobic in a lot of ways.)

Based.

[Ekco]

Based.

their houses deprecate the same as a 90s civic, only society on planet earf that makes sense to me

[shovelquest]

*preserves their own culture and customs.

Xenaphobic:

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

This channel does commentary on 90 day fiancé

What a cute couple https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=A5tH4lzgTEI

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Wasn’t this the plot of 50 First Dates movie?

I bet the dude went out and cheated like a bandit after the memory wipe

[Duik]

Memblur. Charm. Classic chanter MO.

[loramin]

*preserves their own culture and customs.

Xenaphobic:

Japan is a complex place. On the one hand you're right: they've embraced Western culture (to an almost fetishistic level).

But at the same time, while they see Western stuff as fun, there's a strong undercurrent of "everything not-Japanese is inferior". Remember history: the pro-Western stuff comes from our relations post-WWII ... but Japan was xenophobic for hundreds of years before. Blue Eyed Samurai wasn't (all) fiction: Japan banned all foreigners for hundreds of years (except for one ship a year so they knew what was happening). And don't even get me started on what they've done to other Asian countries (eg. to China in WWII), because some of it makes the Nazis look good.

A country doesn't go from a crazy xenophobic "we're going to conquer all the other inferior races" to Sesame Street overnight, and so their culture today still has some serious xenophobia. It's why their immigration policy is so strict, even though the whole country is aging and they desperately need new blood: they fear the country being "diluted" by foreign blood.

[shovelquest]

I get that you think your culture is superior to theirs.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Japan is a complex place. On the one hand you're right: they've embraced Western culture (to an almost fetishistic level).

But at the same time, while they see Western stuff as fun, there's a strong undercurrent of "everything not-Japanese is inferior". Remember history: the pro-Western stuff comes from our relations post-WWII ... but Japan was xenophobic for hundreds of years before. Blue Eyed Samurai wasn't (all) fiction: Japan banned all foreigners for hundreds of years (except for one ship a year so they knew what was happening). And don't even get me started on what they've done to other Asian countries (eg. to China in WWII), because some of it makes the Nazis look good.

A country doesn't go from a crazy xenophobic "we're going to conquer all the other inferior races" to Sesame Street overnight, and so their culture today still has some serious xenophobia. It's why their immigration policy is so strict, even though the whole country is aging and they desperately need new blood: they fear the country being "diluted" by foreign blood.

Oh yea I’ve watched a few documentaries. Japan supposedly has stores that will not allow non-Japanese customers. I’ve heard even MOST renters in Japan will outright not rent to non-Japanese or if they do, they are at the back of the list after they’ve addressed every single prospective Japanese renter

And American nuisance streamers like Johnny Somali coming in causing havoc has only made things worse in terms of their impressions of American travelers

[shovelquest]

And American nuisance streamers like Johnny Somali coming in causing havoc has only made things worse in terms of their impressions of American travelers

This is the reason.

In the 1990s if you were american in japan, you were a rock star. You got free meals, fee gifts, invited to every party, you were a king.

Now, they're "xenophobe" because they are sick of western tourism porn revealing that western culture is DOG SHIT.

OH NO they wont bend over bakcwards for western tourists, must have racism "in their blood" from their history.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

This is stupid shit. With a name like “hoe math” you can smell the incel-bias from a mile away, especially considering the 10/10 guys he’s referencing (who I assume he also despises because of their success with women) are the male versions of “hoes”…

…and that’s the crux of what this dude can’t understand. BOTH men and women have SOME of them who think they are more attractive or desirable than they really are. This is not exclusive to women

And, believe it or not, there’s a shitload, hundreds of thousands, of men and women who have pretty good self-awareness and a good idea of how their looks roughly compare. Sure women might be more picky on dating sites because they can because there’s fewer of them. And everyone becomes more picky the more populated the area they live

But there are tons of people, including my parents and multiple aunts and uncles of mine, who had an understanding of the type of person that would like them back. And they went for that person on a dating site. And they married that person. They didn’t waste years and years trying for 10/10 men or women, or even people significantly out of their league. Why didn’t they? Because they’re not overconfident cocky morons?

My armchair psychological assessment is that the narrator is unsuccessful with women. And the reason is he thinks that he is more attractive than he really is. And then he projects that idea onto the entire USA population and assumes everyone in the country has that problem

I’d love to see this dude interview an insecure, depressed person, male or female. And have him ask them what they rate their own looks as and what they think they could get or deserve in a partner. He’d be astounded when they say “I’m like a 1/10 [when really they are like a 5/10], and I deserve no one”

Oh no, then his entire system falls apart, doesn’t it? A woman who thinks she is much uglier than she is and doesn’t try for chads? This can’t be!!!

Dude needs to stop projecting

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=09e2iel1u5A

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
This being said, yes there is a “numbers game” strategy, and because it can be effective, I’m sure it subconsciously reinforces this guy’s world view

And that “numbers game” strategy is that, if a 6/10 looks dude went around outside bars and clubs and popular hangouts and asked out 500 women significantly out of his league (which would mean dozens per night out), eventually he would get a “yes”

That’s assuming this person can mentally handle the hundreds of rejections. And the female version would be a woman who either also gets rejected or only gets a one night stand-> ghost with a “Chad” guy. A string of these would also tend to wear negatively on their self-esteem, believe me

So is it an effective strategy? Sure, one of the most effective if you want to “punch above” your dating weight. Does it mean that all men and women behave or should behave in this way? No

Like I said, good luck with your hundreds of rejections trying it

[shovelquest]

https://i.imgur.com/IcC5kDE.png

[shovelquest]

Up for debate:

If mankind builds AI girlfriend's/boyfriends.

And also invents birthing pods, so traditional relationships between men and woman would no longer be required for procreation.

Would women disappear?

[Ekco]

you might as well go full transhumanism at that point and do away with the concept of gender all together

the furries and freaks in VR chat are already there anyways.

the metaverse already exists, VR chat is straight up ripped from the pages of Snow Crash


The couples coming off the monorail can't afford to have custom avatars made and don't know how to write their own. They have to buy off-the-shelf avatars. One of the girls has a pretty nice one. It would be considered quite the fashion statement among the K-Tel set. Looks like she has bought the Avatar Construction Set (tm) and put together her own, customized model
out of miscellaneous parts. It might even look something like its owner. Her date doesn't look half bad himself.

The other girl is a Brandy. Her date is a Clint. Brandy and Clint are both popular, off-the-shelf models. When white-trash high school girls are going on a date in the Metaverse, they invariably run down to the computer games section of the local Wal-Mart and buy a copy of Brandy. The user can select three breast sizes: improbable, impossible, and ludicrous. Brandy has a limited repertoire of facial expressions: cute and pouty; cute and sultry; perky and interested; smiling and receptive; cute and spacy. Her eyelashes are half an inch long, and the software is so cheap that they are rendered as solid ebony chips. When a Brandy flutters her eyelashes, you can almost feel the breeze. Clint is just the male counterpart of Brandy. He is craggy and handsome and has an extremely limited range of facial expressions.

[shovelquest]

Would we? Or would elon musk and andrew tate and all those types of people just kick out all the girls.

[Ekco]

Would we? Or would elon musk and andrew tate and all those types of people just kick out all the girls.

the aspie girls will be protected at all costs by nerds, they won't let tate harm them.

[shovelquest]

the aspie girls will be protected at all costs by nerds, they won't let tate harm them.

would they or would they be to busy fucking their ai girlfriends?

-W0cXMBzhqg

[Ekco]

i mean, i hope so lol.

i actually don't think that shit is gonna catch on, using AI and Big Data to find someone your actually compatible with i think is going to be pretty popular

and robot lovers will be a minority

[shovelquest]

i mean, i hope so lol.

i actually don't think that shit is gonna catch on, using AI and Big Data to find someone your actually compatible with i think is going to be pretty popular

and robot lovers will be a minority

idk Im not saying its one way or the other but, it seems like the more a society progresses (japan, usa for example) the people stop getting into relationships and stop having kids.

I could see a world where naggy women are gone.

Like do we really need to listen to this crap?

https://i.imgur.com/j5hS2ES.png

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Would women disappear?

Lol yes. But interestingly enough, for the first time in my life, I had a teenage girl client describe having an AI boyfriend recently. She was self-conscious enough to not label it directly as that, she called it her “assistant”. But it was definitely male and designed in a way to be appealing to her

I felt really bad because this girl was actually very pretty for her age, and that was a factor as to why she was being bullied by her peers (girls especially tend to really hate on pretty girls, and I am not sexist, this is a thing a lot of girls will reluctantly confirm). AND to make matters worse she had neglectful parents. So she smelled like B.O. and was wearing dirty clothes

And I’m smelling her talking about not being able to date her “crush” and describing her AI assistant and I’m thinking “girl, you are 13, you absolutely can’t be the smelly kid and have any chance in hell at dating”. But I said nothing. I did submit a report to child protective services about her constant tardiness due to her parents, her poor hygiene, and unwashed clothes. Food, clothes, shelter, hygiene. It’s not a lot, but that’s the shit parents are legally responsible for their kid

[shovelquest]

Itd be cool if people tried to connect incels from both sexes together instead of shitting all over them while they tell me step aside for fat chicks.

[Ekco]

both societies were hit pretty hard by economic troubles and other factors over the last 30-40 years

and the "system" itself is so fucking complex with everything doing a butterfly effect and rippling into and effecting something else, it's hard to pick a singular cause and effect factor and draw conclusions about it

power dynamic shift with women having like a 500% increase in college degrees and well paying jobs, while simultaneously everyone is under a mountain of debt and its never been easier to isolate and ignore the world..etc..etc

japan does seem to be a little ahead of the curve of all this compared to us and it's getting weirder over there by the day

[Ekco]

she called it her “assistant”. But it was definitely male and designed in a way to be appealing to her


i'm pretty sure like 80%+ of people are making the opposite sex choice for ai assistants, and assistant is the branding on it now in the business world, if you turn on CNBC or Bloomberg 4 out of 5 commercials are about Ai Assistants, some are hilarious usually involving people falling alseep/day dreaming during a meeting and the assistant saving their job by telling them what to say

the only thing new about this from a teen girl prospective is its a chatbot, is it really that different from a parasocial "i'm dating a member of the backstreet boys" weird phase they go through? and like 90% of women are into fantasy smut novels anyway so worse case it's that but interactive now lol

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Itd be cool if people tried to connect incels from both sexes together instead of shitting all over them while they tell me step aside for fat chicks.

Lol I always take a mantra of you should never insist on a girl being in better shape than you. Due to men and women’s different (men are more into it) views on working out, I only consider that one direction. Meaning to me, it is completely fine for a girl to insist on a guy being in better shape than her, but not the reverse of this

But because I am in good shape with a 34 clothes waistline for men, I also would like a girl I date to be comparable….

….However, I think these people like in that vid I linked who go on the internet and rage about their rejections are just dumb. Or insane, if we are going with the non-accurate old school quote “insanity is continuing to do the same thing and expect a different result”

My experience in getting in good shape and then getting back into dating a few years ago (after like a 6ish year hiatus) was that initially I was doing what that girl in the vid was doing. And what the narrator is probably doing. Which was going for people significantly more attractive than me. Now I wouldn’t always get rejected on the app. Sometimes I could set up a first date by being as witty as I could. And then I’d get ghosted after the first date

The first few hit like a punch to the balls. I think I almost got choked up after my second or third rejection. Then after like 8 or so more they still hurt but not nearly as much, eventually hardly at all. Nowadays after a few successful (albeit short, less than a full year) relationships, rejections don’t affect me at all, confidence wise. They literally have zero effect now

But when I was starting out, I realized I needed to adjust and lower my standards a little. Then I lowered them again. I actually went out on a few dates with girls where I had zero attraction to their picture. I didn’t think it was ugly or anything. Just not “attractive”. Just plain old neutral. But there were times on the date where the girl would say something I liked and smile a certain way and I’d think “ooh ok, I feel some attraction now”. It didn’t end up working out (I believe they happened to ghost me interestingly enough). But it did open my eyes to the idea that pictures cannot convey a person. And a person can “become” attractive in how they carry themselves or act

I guess the male version is easier for me to describe. There are some guys who really objectively are not that great looking. But they have a certain style or way they talk or carry themselves that oozes confidence and charisma. Well, there’s a girl version of that too. But people won’t realize it unless they go for girls that they may not have been all that attracted to some still-frame picture

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
Last post before I go on a run, and while I’m sure there are many different actress examples of this “not hot until you get to know them”, one for me was always Fairuza Balk (pic below, and yes I had to look up her name)

To me (and keep in mind my standards are still high because I base them off girls I think I could get), I’ve never really thought this girl was objectively good looking. But once I saw her play the evil goth girl villain in The Craft movie as a kid, I was in love

Now, if I would have seen her pic on a dating site, to me, maybe 6/10. But then if she happened to show up on the date looking and acting like that evil goth girl? I would have been half-mast the entire date. And I don’t even really have a thing for goth girls. She just did it so well

So this is an example of a plain girl who becomes hot in how she acts

[tajeke]

Yeah, I totally get what you mean. Some people just have that energy or presence that makes them way more attractive than their pics suggest. Fairuza Balk in The Craft is a perfect example—she had that wild, chaotic energy that made her insanely compelling. It’s not always about conventional beauty; sometimes, it’s about the vibe they bring.

[tajeke]

where is my post?(

[tajeke]

Totally get what you mean! Some people just have that energy, that vibe, that completely transforms how attractive they seem. Fairuza Balk in The Craft? Yeah, she nailed that role—attitude, confidence, and a little chaos can be seriously magnetic. It's a reminder that attraction isn’t just about looks; personality, presence, and how someone carries themselves can change everything.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Totally get what you mean! Some people just have that energy, that vibe, that completely transforms how attractive they seem. Fairuza Balk in The Craft? Yeah, she nailed that role—attitude, confidence, and a little chaos can be seriously magnetic. It's a reminder that attraction isn’t just about looks; personality, presence, and how someone carries themselves can change everything.

100

[kjs86z2]

^
Last post before I go on a run, and while I’m sure there are many different actress examples of this “not hot until you get to know them”, one for me was always Fairuza Balk (pic below, and yes I had to look up her name)

To me (and keep in mind my standards are still high because I base them off girls I think I could get), I’ve never really thought this girl was objectively good looking. But once I saw her play the evil goth girl villain in The Craft movie as a kid, I was in love

Now, if I would have seen her pic on a dating site, to me, maybe 6/10. But then if she happened to show up on the date looking and acting like that evil goth girl? I would have been half-mast the entire date. And I don’t even really have a thing for goth girls. She just did it so well

So this is an example of a plain girl who becomes hot in how she acts

she was great in Waterboy

[Tethler]

yeah i don't expect citizenship, i just want a long term visa to live in one of those cheap houses in a ghost town village

Yeah, you'd have to renounce your current citizenship since Japan doesn't allow dual-citizenship. Not worth for most people.

[tajeke]

Totally agree with you! Some people just have that something—a mix of attitude, presence, and charisma—that transforms them from “meh” to wow. Fairuza Balk in The Craft is a perfect example. It’s not just about looks; it’s how someone carries themselves, their confidence, and the vibe they give off.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Philion reacts to a dude trying to date femcels

Didn’t have time to watch the full thing before my hike today, but I suspected they were all going to be gay dudes or trans girls

But apparently he did find a real verified girl on there and asked her to share what messages she got from guys on the femcel app and it was mostly requests to let her “cuck” them, like have sex with someone hotter while they hold her hand. SMH

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KB9gH_8wNxc

[Ekco]

rofl at that thumbnail

that one chick was one of the recent school shooters and the dumb cunt wore the same shirt as one of the columbine kids while she did it(or atleast the photo exists of her in the shirt, idk if she was wearing it been awhile since i seen that photo and the story)

[Reiwa]

Totally agree with you! Some people just have that something—a mix of attitude, presence, and charisma—that transforms them from “meh” to wow. Fairuza Balk in The Craft is a perfect example. It’s not just about looks; it’s how someone carries themselves, their confidence, and the vibe they give off.

Fairuza Balk has a giant mouth, like Julia Roberts and the waitress on Always Sunny.

It's a strange subspecies.

[tajeke]

And honestly, that’s why online dating works so well these days. It gives you the chance to actually connect beyond just pictures and see that personality shine. With how social norms have shifted, meeting people online isn’t just convenient—it’s the modern way to find someone who truly clicks with you. Check this out for a fresh take: https://www.tenderbang.com/fwb-dating.html

[shovelquest]

https://i.imgur.com/wq6HH5d.png

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Dylan McKnight? This dude isn’t one of the biggest in the fitness community but he’s pretty well-known, I know I’ve heard of this dude before

Ouch bro. Says he dropped $20k on OnlyFans, has a crippling porn addiction, has erectile dysfunction (that might be from PED’s I remember his “I took roids and lied about it” vid went viral) when trying to get with real girls

Kinda wild. Had only skimmed by a good looking wealthy fit social media influencer does not fit the bill for the type of person. I always picture these suckers are either men from Arabic countries or Americans with crippling social anxiety

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9ptXXG1wttk

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

There has to be a line between victim blaming and common sense

3 attractive young internet-famous girls with a fanbase of 98% lonely awkward sexually repressed men chose to livestream walking in public at night without private security that they could likely afford

Simp fan stream snipes them, changes outfits to try to bother them again, asks one out, gets rejected (you know it’s going to go south when he doesn’t understand that “I don’t have a phone” when asking for her number means no), then threatens to kill them

Also not great that none of the girls had any mace or non-lethal self defense means, and instead they all frantically yell “security!!” at the sky as if Superman will fly down to rescue them

They’re young and under duress and the fault is entirely on the crazed simp but still. They’re someone’s daughter and dad should be giving them talks about stuff like this

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=u1YfSSHDnSM

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Would be ironic if this is the one that fitness influencer Dylan McKnight sent $20k to

$50mil in 2 years for zero identifiable skill. Meanwhile teachers are making dick

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4KKGcJZc0Rg

[Duik]

That'd be all those infidel heathen athiests.

[Ciderpress]

People say there's a stigma against "short guys" but it's really just a stigma against the guy being shorter than the girl. You can be 6'3 but if the girl is 6'4 it's like ewww get away from me gnome.

Fuck it, I'm gay.

[Reiwa]

Would be ironic if this is the one that fitness influencer Dylan McKnight sent $20k to

$50mil in 2 years for zero identifiable skill. Meanwhile teachers are making dick

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4KKGcJZc0Rg

Most teachers are public employees.

But it's funny that the top paid state worker is usually the football coach at the biggest public university.

[Lune]

People say there's a stigma against "short guys" but it's really just a stigma against the guy being shorter than the girl. You can be 6'3 but if the girl is 6'4 it's like ewww get away from me gnome.

Fuck it, I'm gay.

This only really became a phenomenon with the rise of online dating as a norm. Sure, shortness was perceived as a negative quality but that influence was pretty small.

A man's desirability is an emergent property of all his qualities, positive and negative. Some of them are somewhat intangible but extremely powerful, more than capable of outweighing being short, like humor. With online dating, essentially, women are provided with 1,000's of resumes. On any given one, you have no clue what that emergent property is going to look like until you meet, so there's really no evident reason not to weed out the pile based on things like height, income. Being tall is no guarantee you'll have success in online dating but it does get your foot in the door.

Before online dating, when most courtships stemmed from your social network, your foot was already in the door, and you were appraised based on that emergent property I mentioned. I'd say it works similarly with women except what they look like is the extremely dominant variable when all their qualities come together, to a far greater degree than men.

Vertebrate species with two sexes are all designed so that virtually every female that isn't completely broken is supposed to reproduce, but only some of the males.

[shovelquest]

Short guys have less power at work and school lmao let alone dating. Even dudes prefer taller friends.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4342156/

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Short guys have less power at work and school lmao let alone dating. Even dudes prefer taller friends.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4342156/

How I approach guys that are shorter than me:

[Ciderpress]

It's a clear imbalance, no doubt rooted in evolution in biology, but none the less annoying. A dude can be out of shape and extremely ugly and dumb, but if he's tall none of that matters. Andre the giant smashed all kinds of poon and he was basically an actual retard.

[Ciderpress]

This only really became a phenomenon with the rise of online dating as a norm. Sure, shortness was perceived as a negative quality but that influence was pretty small.

A man's desirability is an emergent property of all his qualities, positive and negative. Some of them are somewhat intangible but extremely powerful, more than capable of outweighing being short, like humor. With online dating, essentially, women are provided with 1,000's of resumes. On any given one, you have no clue what that emergent property is going to look like until you meet, so there's really no evident reason not to weed out the pile based on things like height, income. Being tall is no guarantee you'll have success in online dating but it does get your foot in the door.

Before online dating, when most courtships stemmed from your social network, your foot was already in the door, and you were appraised based on that emergent property I mentioned. I'd say it works similarly with women except what they look like is the extremely dominant variable when all their qualities come together, to a far greater degree than men.

Vertebrate species with two sexes are all designed so that virtually every female that isn't completely broken is supposed to reproduce, but only some of the males.

Yeah I agree with all of this, but I think there's still a biological inequity when it comes to attraction. In the year 1412 I'm sure the tall dudes still got laid more, and the fat ugly chicks still got laid by literally any man.

[shovelquest]

It's a clear imbalance, no doubt rooted in evolution in biology, but none the less annoying. A dude can be out of shape and extremely ugly and dumb, but if he's tall none of that matters. Andre the giant smashed all kinds of poon and he was basically an actual retard.

ycKh2PCWGD4

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I agree with Cider that the preference seems to be guys taller than them. And the upper limit, if there is one, for most women seems to be super high

I actually get a bit miffed when I match up on a dating app with a gal significantly shorter than me. I had a stretch where I think I dated 3 girls in a row who were between 5’1 and 5’3

And I never realized it until the first date. I never really look at height stats, and with pics it’s hard to tell. Then they arrive on the first date and I have to hold in my “holy cow you’re short” statement because that’s the last thing a short person wants to hear, something they hear 20 times a day (same goes for a tall person though too, no need to state the obvious we’re not children here)

But I get pissed thinking “look, you being that short means lots of guys should be possible options. You are one of the few girls out there who could match with a shorter guy who’s 5’4. And yet you skip over them to still go for me at 6’0”

That makes me kinda miffed, because I know how it is for short guys. Not a dealbreaker though lol

[shovelquest]

I always assume tall people who date short people are unconcious pedo's.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I always assume tall people who date short people are unconcious pedo's.

Ya it would be weird to have a “very short” preference as a guy at any height really. A child sized lady is still a child-sized lady even if she’s with an average height guy. Although short guys DO have to tend to find girls shorter than them

I have zero preference on girl height. I’d date a girl much taller than me and if she’s hot enough I’ll climb that Amazon woman like a tree

[shovelquest]

Tall guys "I have standards, but this one that next to me looks like a 3 year old is perfect."

https://i.imgur.com/d6ooReR.gif

[Duik]

That is just how you think.
Says alot about how you process input received from your surroundings.

Good grief.

[shovelquest]

I could see that, whoever smelt it delt it kind of reasoning.

Probably doesn't hold up though like much of wokie virtue signaling.

https://i.imgur.com/3rqHZjq.png

[shovelquest]

Even dudes prefer taller friends.

Also keep simping for the tall guys they will be your friend if you simp hard enough.

:o

[Duik]

You see women as a set of statistics.

Height. Weight. *Measurements*.

Not interests. Compatibility. Mutual attraction.

Wow. You guys sure do reveal alot about yourselves without meaning to.

Im sorry.

[shovelquest]

no i dont lol

why do lefties always think they have some kind of crystal ball.

is it cus you all do tarot cards and astrology

[Duik]

Lolocaust.

Lefties.
Tarot cards.
Crystal Balls.

The only one here with Crystal Balls is the weak men who see women as only size/weight/stats.
You assign her childlike status based on what *you want to see* not what she has to offer in a partnership.

You are weak.
Sorry.

[Reiwa]

You see women as a set of statistics.

Height. Weight. *Measurements*.

Not interests. Compatibility. Mutual attraction.

Wow. You guys sure do reveal alot about yourselves without meaning to.

Im sorry.

https://i.imgur.com/3Fxl6hB.jpeg

Comprende?

[Duik]

Go for her Reiwa! Its the interwebs, lie. No body will fact check you. Maybe when she sees all of what you got goin' on she will drop to her knees (and her panties) and you in!

Or maybe, if you get your wish. Its a man.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

If AI algorithms auto-disqualifying job applicants is a thing, it’s only a matter of time before it’s happening on dating apps

I have a fantasy of a guy. And it’s a guy who has used AI to generate his dating app profile and every message’s content the entire time begin floundering hard on a date because AI isn’t whispering what to say every second anymore

^
Yet, anyway…soon I’m sure we’ll have the tech for AI to suggest every IRL answer…

But for now the thought of some AI bro sounding good online and dumb/boring on RL dates is a sort of karma-justice-for-cheating fantasy of mine. We are entering that era soon

[shovelquest]

dating in 2025 is like

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[Duik]

If AI algorithms auto-disqualifying job applicants is a thing, it’s only a matter of time before it’s happening on dating apps

I have a fantasy of a guy. And it’s a guy who has used AI to generate his dating app profile and every message’s content the entire time begin floundering hard on a date because AI isn’t whispering what to say every second anymore

^
Yet, anyway…soon I’m sure we’ll have the tech for AI to suggest every IRL answer…

But for now the thought of some AI bro sounding good online and dumb/boring on RL dates is a sort of karma-justice-for-cheating fantasy of mine. We are entering that era soon

Really?

OMG, consider yourself taken out (of context).

[shovelquest]

Are you coping with your sexuality duik?

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Really?

OMG, consider yourself taken out (of context).

I had, that was the joke. Je-baited! ;)

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Date possibly tomorrow (unless work fucks me), and then Ren Fen date with different gal sat

I don’t even message much these days. They hit me up on apps and I feel rude not responding ;)

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

People trying to pretend looks don’t matter attempt to date without being able to see each other, or something

Is worse when the dude has an annoying voice. What is wrong with your throat do you need a cough drop

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zhU0drtdD68

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Ren Fen was fun, crowded as all hell (as always) and there wasn’t nearly enough people wearing green for St Patty’s day weekend theme. Had to give a lot of people there titty twisters for not wearing green because I heard that’s what you are supposed to do. Almost got in a few fights, people did not take it well. Wear green then next time, assholes

Can only post pics here because would lose a few gal friends (for a while) if I posted on FB. So according to FB this was a boring nothingburger weekend

- First few pics are to give an indication of how packed it was. Couldn’t even watch the damn jousting (can see the arena in one of the shots, barely) because there were no seats, the entire stadium was full. So we bailed. Date said she couldn’t see. I asked her “It’s not that hard, have you tried being 6’0?”

- The cat lady had her trained cat jump like 7 feet through a hoop to another platform but I didn’t snap the shot off at the correct time for that epic jump, so the action shot I got was a shorter jump. That last shot is the cat standing on her feet. She was pretty athletic herself, impressive show

A few more pics coming

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

She had never rock climbed before but is pretty naturally athletic and very into pushing herself. I tried to inspire by mentioning a girl’s thin build is much more suited to rock climbing than my fat ass at 220lbs. Weight matters when hanging by fingertips

Although we both just did the medium difficulty course. I got to the top and hit the stuffed dragon, she got 2 holds from the top. They put her on a harder medium course than me though for some reason, although I could’ve easily gotten to the top of hers too. Couldn’t have done the advanced one though, where you get $50 for finishing, that shit was ridic fingertip nonsense at a negative angle, pass

Also got a pic next to same statue man as last year, different girl. He didn’t recognize me, which is good

[shovelquest]

aw she likes you

I bet you're a lot of fun nopenope

[Skarne]

Good 4 u findin a lady love! Well wishes

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

aw she likes you

I bet you're a lot of fun nopenope

I just try to be someone that someone wants to have around, guy or girl doesn’t matter. Trying to make people laugh, ask them about themselves or their week or ask them about things I think they will like talking about

This one is a licensed therapist though, so she is very good at asking questions to get me to talk about myself. So sometimes I will have to be like “Hey stop that. You’re too damn good at asking questions. Don’t use your therapist tricks on me, I am immune”

The problem is she’s going to leave me eventually over not wanting to get married or have kids. She already asked me once here if I ever wanted to have a kid and I had to be honest and say “no, even as a kid I never had that dream of raising a kid someday. I always felt weird and alone when all my friends talked about wanting the white picket fence and family with kids and I didn’t”

The last gal I dated for 8ish months left mostly over me not wanting to have kids. And I can’t blame them. Dating girls in their 30’s is very different than 20’s. They are looking to settle down, their bio clock is ticking. I am in a very good position now in terms of situation and I want to keep my options open. I like the idea of being able to pursue whoever I want, whenever I want, without cheating. So I would prefer to stay single through most of my prime 40’s if possible, maybe with the occasional relationships

But I feel bad, like I am wasting their time, and they don’t have time to waste like they used to. But I am also open to having my mind changed too /shrug

[Duik]

Rock climbing is more legs than fingers. Although you need fingers, the upward momentum is more from the legs.
Arms/hands/fingers are more stabilizers than ascending devices.
That being said most of my climbing was on sandstone surfaces IRL.
Like the second sister at Katoomba. A circuitous route like a corkscrew. There was even some existing pitons (gradually being removed) but mostly araldited bolts/plates as secondary protection.

God im old.

Also. What a date that would be.
Fuck yeah NopNope.

[Ciderpress]

Not to derail but lol just noticed botten got got, how did that happen? I've been slacking on forumquest lately

[shovelquest]

NOPENOPE goes on the type of dates like they do on a cable dating tv shows.

"hi nice to meet you, have you ever gone pig wrestling?"

[shovelquest]

literally nopenope 😂😂😂

u44x3xrxIlE

[Duik]

A bit different.

Shes fit. He asked her first. She likes to push herself.

Also, takem to places you like. If they dont like it. You'll know to kickem to the kerb. Or they will you.

Not watchen that pig race thing. But did she go yeah haww get me some dat porcine racin!

Or, um nope nope. Pigs are for bacon or nuffin

[Reiwa]

Not to derail but lol just noticed botten got got, how did that happen? I've been slacking on forumquest lately

Been gone since Feb 25 minimum. Last visible post is Feb 11.

[Duik]

Deepstate.
Russia.
Secret Service.
Posted something stupid.

One of those is likely.

[shovelquest]

*presses send*

[Ciderpress]

Been gone since Feb 25 minimum. Last visible post is Feb 11.

Really?? I feel like I've argued with him more recently than that.. weird.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Or, um nope nope. Pigs are for bacon or nuffin

She can’t have gluten. I forget what happens but it’s bad, like an allergic reaction. So we have to go to these organic foosy restaurants where everything is made with grass fed gluten free bread (also taste free)

At least I finally got to try a cup of $8 piping hot bone broth there. The waiter said it’s good for my immune system and I told him I don’t get sick or have any of her silly food weaknesses

I’ve already told her what to do is eat so much gluten you power through to the other side of gluten immunity

[Reiwa]

She can’t have gluten. I forget what happens but it’s bad, like an allergic reaction. So we have to go to these organic foosy restaurants where everything is made with grass fed gluten free bread (also taste free)

At least I finally got to try a cup of $8 piping hot bone broth there. The waiter said it’s good for my immune system and I told him I don’t get sick or have any of her silly food weaknesses

I’ve already told her what to do is eat so much gluten you power through to the other side of gluten immunity

Can she drink beer?

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Can she drink beer?

Nah, was a former addict, then had a (literal) come to Jesus moment, now pretty religious. Also sotally tober. Living above the influence and bored as hell. Jk she still fun

Out of respect I don’t drink around her. I don’t need beer though. It’s fun, and I’ll do it socially. But I can go more than a month without and not notice. I told her that I have been doing weed edibles for like 15 years and have my medical card and won’t eat any where you can see but will be somewhat high sometimes and if you don’t like it there’s the door baby! My body is a temple just like Jesus wanted. Except my temple is made of hemp rope. And I’m eating it

Never actually had to say the last part because she never challenged it. So I assuming she cool with it

[Reiwa]

Nah, was a former addict, then had a (literal) come to Jesus moment, now pretty religious. Also sotally tober. Living above the influence and bored as hell. Jk she still fun

Out of respect I don’t drink around her. I don’t need beer though. It’s fun, and I’ll do it socially. But I can go more than a month without and not notice. I told her that I have been doing weed edibles for like 15 years and have my medical card and won’t eat any where you can see but will be somewhat high sometimes and if you don’t like it there’s the door baby! My body is a temple just like Jesus wanted. Except my temple is made of hemp rope. And I’m eating it

Never actually had to say the last part because she never challenged it. So I assuming she cool with it

I was just checking if she actually had Celiac disease.

If she used to drink the juice of the barley, she's a phony gluten hipster.

[Reiwa]

but

YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WAS A TEETOTALER?

Yes, that Austrian guy. 💀

And Donald Trump.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

but

YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WAS A TEETOTALER?

Yes, that Austrian guy. ��

Must be part of how he got so jacked and won Mr Olympia. Well, that and the steroids. I assume it’s the steroids that made him want to kill Jews

And Donald Trump

I heard Kamala might have fallen off the wagon hard after this last election. Or not sure if she was ever on the wagon

As long as she doesn’t have a problem I say go nuts. She still has fu money prolly at this point. Kick back and get shmammered for a year or 2. Then get a book deal and milk another few free years

[Trexller]

I heard Kamala might have fallen off the wagon hard after this last election. Or not sure if she was ever on the wagon

there are alot of clips of kamala slurring her words, i'm gonna say it's a moderate amount of alcohol mixed with benzos

Q1LlVfXX2Qo

[shovelquest]

there are alot of clips of kamala slurring her words, i'm gonna say it's a moderate amount of alcohol mixed with benzos

Q1LlVfXX2Qo

Life in the kamala household rn

XOILKHmZBwc

[Botten]

Been gone since Feb 25 minimum. Last visible post is Feb 11.

Been around for a long time.

You get to know a few.

A thread was buried after a grave seeker had a number of edits with colorful responses before settling on a more civil statement to my post.. followed by a report (must of hit a nerve).

And since…

“The staff does not and can not read every post or thread. If you spot a post or thread that violates the above rules...” (https://www.project1999.com/forums/showthread.php?t=324844)

The rest can be divulged.

Side Note: None, should have a second forum account. I don’t. With that aside, I didn’t know a select few can see IPs on the forum.

Either way leaving this for the Wee Harvester obsesser batting rocks from his glass house.

https://www.project1999.com/forums/showpost.php?p=3480596&postcount=246

Horaz was right then.

[shovelquest]

YAY

Living with only 1 political spectrum was albeit utopia.

BUT BORING!

Glad to have you back botten.

. followed by a report

"I dindu NOTHING!"

[Trexller]

https://64.media.tumblr.com/731903ed20e866b482b99d54f289b47e/4d0b1c561e380f94-75/s500x750/c222291727377d932f4307a9bbbf69f271fd7ae0.gif

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Glad to have you back botten.


https://y.yarn.co/54845677-8281-4002-8d1c-a6456583ab8e_text.gif

WB

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Other gal I’m dating has postponed twice now, but fate can’t keep us apart

Note: As a guy this is a terrible idea. Do NOT postpone or make things in any way remotely difficult. There are less girls on apps with far more options than guys have, meaning most are looking for any reason to ghost. As soon as things stop appearing like a fairytale for any reason, they are as gone as the wind. “That’s fine, I wouldn’t want to be with someone so fickle” is a stance I used to (and still) take. But I prefer to keep everything as fairytale as I can at least until the first date

It’s all about the first date. Nothing matters prior. Not how the photos look, not how the messages went. You either have chemistry on the first date or you don’t. But you have to get there to know. And that means keeping them from bailing until then. If they bail after the first date, who cares? You at least found out

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
Oh and to follow up on this idea: nothing matters until the first date is there are two categories of letdowns I have personally experienced and heard from bro’s on Reddit (since no one is dating here….) as experiencing:

1. “I was catfished” - Usually ends up being in a minor way, like the girl is 20lbs heavier or like 3-4 years older than her photos. “Catfish” is a broad term and not meaning the scammer version that happens only online

2. “Oh my God I feel so sad she ghosted, we seemed perfect for each other in our messages. She said she read the same books as me and even recognized the quote I used! We seemed like kindred spirits!” - Versions of this without the details I have heard a few times on Reddit. I even had some naive young bro’s try to claim they were bf/gf despite them only having messaged for a few weeks/months and not met in person (usually due to schedules or distance)


The way to protect against either of these letdowns is to adopt a mentality of nothing matters until the first date. Don’t get hung up on how pretty she is or how great the messaging has gone. Don’t build things up in your mind. If the first date goes great, and there’s chemistry, and she’s still in touch after, then feel free to get emotionally invested and start building things up. NOT PRIOR

[shovelquest]

(since no one is dating here….)

have fun on your date, Gabe.

https://i.imgur.com/NyNk9sb.gif

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Was I wrong? :)

Edit: actually I was because there’s some married couples here who go out on dates I believe. Maybe they don’t call them that but it’s good they still do them. I am not a relationship expert but I think a good way to fight for a relationship is never stop dating (your spouse)

[Reiwa]

Been around for a long time.

You get to know a few.

A thread was buried after a grave seeker had a number of edits with colorful responses before settling on a more civil statement to my post.. followed by a report (must of hit a nerve).

And since…

“The staff does not and can not read every post or thread. If you spot a post or thread that violates the above rules...” (https://www.project1999.com/forums/showthread.php?t=324844)

The rest can be divulged.

Side Note: None, should have a second forum account. I don’t. With that aside, I didn’t know a select few can see IPs on the forum.

Either way leaving this for the Wee Harvester obsesser batting rocks from his glass house.

https://www.project1999.com/forums/showpost.php?p=3480596&postcount=246

Horaz was right then.

https://media1.tenor.com/m/nDW9cLiFtDgAAAAd/good-to-have-you-back-eric-cartman.gif

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Not sure why this was recommended to me as I’ve never heard of this YouTuber before

But this video is a perfect demonstration that girls with no social skills sound just like guys with no social skills

And also a perfect reason why I prefer to just ghost someone rather than reject them with the polite “I’m sorry, just not feeling a connection” yadda yadda. Some people take rejection well, some definitely don’t. And rejecting gives the ones that don’t a reason to argue

With ghosting, you can always just pretend I loved you but died in a fiery car wreck on the way home. That’s what I do with the girls that ghost me ;)

(Mega cringe in this, may want to put on a lead smock first…)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DyBcSuqLo3k

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
Ok I listened to more of that vid and had to keep from laughing out loud at the gym at the absurdity

I’ve heard (in my job) countless reports of spouses after divorce or bf/gf after breakups threaten [self-deletion]. If there’s a police request for an adult there’s about a 15% chance it’s that. The panicked heater of the threat calls police because it’s doing the right thing and it’s all the layperson is going to think of to do

But threatening to fade to black over a date rejection?? That is next level. And one of the messages the girl said she’s going to randomly block you and probably beat you? Sign me up! Just belt me in the face randomly, that won’t make me all twitchy and weird

I have never experienced anything close to that kind of communication personally. It makes me wonder is that Indian chick Mindy from The Office writing these messages and they’re fake? I remember hearing she was a writer for the office. And her character often threatened to kill herself. Or said she was pregnant

So I’m not discounting the possibility those messages are fake

[shovelquest]

My new favoirte youtuber did a video about your new favorite youtuber NOPE

rnrWFLP1mN0

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
Some funny and based commentary from both

Some things that give an indication that these were all women with no social skills:

- I noticed in some of the pics the double checkmark below the message. I believe that’s Tinder. I haven’t used Tinder in a long time but if I recall it’s a checkmark to show the message was sent and another to show it was read. Other apps don’t use the double checkmark. Girls on Tinder are more likely to be dumb, mentally ill, unemployed, and/or drug addicts than girls on other apps. Shoot, the last girl I had met on Tinder had me driving her to do cocaine deals on our second date (and we hooked up on the first and 2nd). But it’s still better than Plenty of Fish where the girls are all the same as above except more than 50% are bots and scammers because it’s free to use. Paying for dating apps sucks, but you do tend to get far less bots and scammers on there. And having to pay ensures that there’s far more functional professionally employed adults and less unemployed weirdos

- I notice some mentions of things like Star Wars and other nerd culture stuff. Leading me to believe that a good chunk of these might be girls on the ASD spectrum lending credence to statements like “I hope you die in a fire” or “I hope you kill yourself” after a bad first date or rejection. Most functional adults simply don’t talk like that to strangers. Also, I’m guessing the date went “bad” in no small part because the girl on the date (and maybe the guy too, who knows) has the social skills of an 11 year old

[Reiwa]

My new favoirte youtuber did a video about your new favorite youtuber NOPE

rnrWFLP1mN0

What type of monster is his avatar supposed to be?

[shovelquest]

What type of monster is his avatar supposed to be?

Anime transhumanism.

https://i.imgur.com/Zwt9z6z.gif

[Reiwa]

This image is manipulated but my back isn't this hairy.

https://i.imgur.com/Bc4YiNc.png

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Nah I think that’s pretty normal, I’ve seen Hispanic girls backs like that

Let’s be real Rachel Zweihander is a cunt but she’s hot. And she can sing. Would totally hate bang her if she allowed it. Try to hump the TDS right out of her ;)

[shovelquest]

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[shovelquest]

This image is manipulated but my back isn't this hairy.

https://i.imgur.com/Bc4YiNc.png

Mirror am I hotter than gal gadot?

https://i.imgur.com/8n0AJfO.png

YAAS QUEEEN

[Trexller]

Mirror am I hotter than gal gadot?

in the remake they changed "fairest of them all" to mean in reference to "the most just, or least discriminatory" rather then most attractive

[shovelquest]

https://i.imgur.com/UlIxz5A.png

[Duik]

I also enjoy critiquing movies I will never see.

An artist releases their works. You get a choice to either see it and enjoy it (to varying degrees) or see it and hate it.
Or you could, and stay with me here, see it, hate it and shut the hell up. You will never get that time back, or the money.

Could also always not see it.
Artist never sees the money.
You never lament the loss of your time and money and we dont get to hear your whiney bitching about a childrens story that some meanie changed up.

Now do Hansel And Gretel. Or Romeo And Juliet! No wait, they did.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Supposedly I remember hearing that the 2015 live action of Cinderella was actually really good

And I never saw it but I think it has Rob from game of thrones as the lead

[shovelquest]

Haha 2015.

https://i.imgur.com/jcq1qY0.png

The year democrats started their war against men.

10 years later, this is snow white:

https://i.imgur.com/xcohL1K.gif

[Trexller]

Now do Hansel And Gretel. Or Romeo And Juliet! No wait, they did.

They already remade snow white, and it rocked!

I still pirated it.

https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/JLAAAOSwkZhWTK0Q/s-l1200.jpg

[Duik]

What about Pirates Of The Carribean? Did you pirate that?

Stealing makes baby jesus cry.
I make baby jesus cry as well. But not for that reason.

I miss there only being one version of everything so noboby has an emotional breakdown.

[shovelquest]

I miss(ed) living in a society that respected art.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

They already remade snow white, and it rocked!

I still pirated it.

[/IMG]

Hadn’t seen that, but reminded me of this old mostly unknown gem

https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BODA2YjE5NGUtNzc1Mi00MzA3LTllN2ItM2NjZTM1NjkyMW U4XkEyXkFqcGc@._V1_.jpg

[Trexller]

I miss(ed) living in a society that respected art.

for real what happened to art and creativity for the sake of expression?

tattoos, piercings and hair dye don't count.

[DeathsSilkyMist]

Hadn’t seen that, but reminded me of this old mostly unknown gem

https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BODA2YjE5NGUtNzc1Mi00MzA3LTllN2ItM2NjZTM1NjkyMW U4XkEyXkFqcGc@._V1_.jpg

That's a good movie.

[Reiwa]

1JAE8kM_Uy4

Hillary Swank is in Yellowjackets premiering on some service weekly now.

you buy!

[Duik]

LMFAO i just watched a breakdown of the new snow white movie.

Im pleased I never chucked any cash at this dumpster fire.
Dopey the dwarf isnt actually stupid. Snow White isnt actually demure.
Thankfully i saved my cash and time. Oldmate on YT saved me hours. And gave me a laugh to boot.

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Chris really doesn’t get the recognition be deserves. Dude has been making astute observations of psychology for like almost a decade now

I am actually pretty resistant to manosphere talking points but when Chris spouts them, they seem right

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eSzTBVBaTE4

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

In the part where his onlyfans gf requested a civil walk by police to pick up her stuff after breaking up with him, that poor friend she dragged along to help carry is probably like welllllll this is fucking awkward

And then Jack says I can’t believe she was just using me for my money! And I’m thinking you can’t? That dog in the room could probably understand that it was so obvious

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=IeLhaRh05y4

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Wasn’t that the one who banged 1,000 dudes in a day recently?

Didn’t she say she wants to beat that record? How does this dude play into that, he do the interviewing and scheduling?

I’ve always been down with promiscuous girls, but bruh, that’s just sad and super gross

[Duik]

That shot is tight because he wanted to leave the 4 others in the bed oit of the shot.

[Oakwynd]

Have you ever thought about dating an Irish lass? They’re as varied as the rolling landscapes of Ireland itself, with a heritage as rich as a warm pint of stout. Here’s a taste of what you might find:

- Warmth and Friendliness: Irish lasses are like a cozy hearth on a chilly evening, radiating the renowned hospitality of the Emerald Isle. They’re naturally welcoming, with a sociable spirit that draws people in like a cheerful tune at a lively ceilidh.

- Strong Sense of Community: Irish lasses hold family and tradition close, weaving bonds as steadfast and enduring as the ancient stone walls dotting the Irish countryside.

- Cultural Pride: Irish lasses carry their heritage in their hearts, bursting with pride for their roots. Whether it’s through enchanting music, spirited dance, or the vibrant festivals that light up Ireland, their love for tradition shines brilliantly.

- Humor: Irish lasses are famed for their sharp wit and gift for storytelling, spinning tales that can charm a crowd and spark laughter as easily as a lively jig in a bustling pub.

- Resilience: Irish lasses carry a legacy of strength and perseverance, shaped by a history of trials and triumphs. Their determination is as steadfast as the cliffs of Moher, standing tall against the winds of time.

Wha'tcha think?

- Fashion and Style: Irish lasses often strike a perfect balance between modern trends and timeless tradition, effortlessly blending contemporary elegance with the charm of their cultural heritage.

- Education and Ambition: Irish lasses place a high value on learning, often pursuing higher education and career aspirations with unwavering determination, embodying a spirit of progress and pride in their accomplishments.

- Love of Nature: Irish lasses have a deep appreciation for the breathtaking beauty of their homeland. From hiking through rolling green hills to exploring the rugged cliffs and serene countryside, their connection to nature is both heartfelt and inspiring.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
https://media.tenor.com/Vvr_9O_wYCUAAAAe/tony-lc.png

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

That last gal (not the therapist from the Ren Fen) that I had been texting I semi-ghosted after the first date. Wasn’t into her look and wasn’t much chemistry. I say semi gjosted because I think she was into me, but I took a long time getting back to her follow up texts and she could sense the disinterest and stopped texting. The passive rejection I’ve pulled with others before :/ Leaves less ammunition to argue or freak out than a more blunt rejection but I’m willing to give that too if needed

New one is: Went on a late lunch date today with this cutie, went well. We still in contact and the next one she wants to do kayaking (girls always warm up to the idea when I tell them I can tow them forever they only need to paddle as much as they want). So if we do that I’ll probably get some pics for the memoriez

This one is religious and pretty shy and only 4’11 which is freaking short. I never pay attention to heights on dating apps, I don’t care either way and she had hit me up first not the other way around. Didn’t even realize how short she was till we met in person and I not gonna be like sorry you too short

But I’m still also seeing the therapist gal, we were supposed to do a fun 5k tomorrow but she hurt her back so we’ll probably do something else low-key

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I always suggest kayaking before remembering it’s actually kind of a huge PITA to drive all the way to dad’s to pick up the spare yak (which he never lets me keep because he always says he needs to use it for someone), and all the gear

Then have it all strapped down ready to go, then to unpack and pack all the shit at the lake and set up a camp. Once I’m there I’m grooving it’s just the hassle of the organizing. I still recommend but it’s pretty hella involved for a (cheap) date

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

The only reason this convo went on as long as it does was that she obviously part-way through recognized how fuckin weird this dude was and was planning on saving all the convo to dump on Reddit or something for the lol’s

Most gals would have just blocked and ghosted the dude right around when he started to act super insecure and possessive. That “I saw some other guy looking at you for a moment and was about to confront him” is basically waving a red flag in each hand

This much convo after a first date is a bad idea in general IMO. It doesn’t even matter what the convo is about. It makes you look like you have no life, way too much free time to sit and text, and are too desperate

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=V8l3HP7JQfA

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Old dude torpedos his entire family unit for sex tourism, apparently flabbergasted that brothels exist in the world

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2szUgExMbds

[shovelquest]

I always suggest kayaking before remembering it’s actually kind of a huge PITA to drive all the way to dad’s to pick up the spare yak (which he never lets me keep because he always says he needs to use it for someone), and all the gear

Then have it all strapped down ready to go, then to unpack and pack all the shit at the lake and set up a camp. Once I’m there I’m grooving it’s just the hassle of the organizing. I still recommend but it’s pretty hella involved for a (cheap) date

You go on dates like your character on a reality TV show :cool:

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

You go on dates like your character on a reality TV show :cool:

I always wanted to go on one

But I knew a level-headed fairly normal dude would never work for their manufactured fake drama. So I had a plan to pose as some wild Jersey Shore bro fuckboy partier to get cast

Then, as soon as I was on the show, to get back at them I would flip the script and act like the most boring, prudish person there. I was thinking of going for religious and quietly judgmental, enough to be boring and annoying but not enough to start drama

Just to piss off and get back at the producers for their dishonesty lol

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Some cliff notes on the parts I saw (didn’t get through the whole thing):

Lily Philips (the woman who banged ONLY 100 dudes in a day on video, rookie numbers these days, someone else has done 1000) mentions that being exposed to hardcore porn at age 11 taught her about sex and how porn is beautiful or something yadda yadda

So the interviewer point blank asks do you think you would have made the same choices as an adult had you not been watching porn since age 11

I was expecting a resounding “yes, I would have probably made the exact same choices” to prevent cognitive dissonance and save face publicly, but she actually goes for honesty and says “hmm maybe not” as if it’s the first time she ever considered that maybe being exposed to endless amounts of porn at age 11 warped her brain

But yet she still recommends that kids see porn until the interviewer catches her like wait, what was that? And then she backtracks. Lol

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xxNoEbA7qLA

[Reiwa]

Some cliff notes on the parts I saw (didn’t get through the whole thing):

Lily Philips (the woman who banged ONLY 100 dudes in a day on video, rookie numbers these days, someone else has done 1000) mentions that being exposed to hardcore porn at age 11 taught her about sex and how porn is beautiful or something yadda yadda

So the interviewer point blank asks do you think you would have made the same choices as an adult had you not been watching porn since age 11

I was expecting a resounding “yes, I would have probably made the exact same choices” to prevent cognitive dissonance and save face publicly, but she actually goes for honesty and says “hmm maybe not” as if it’s the first time she ever considered that maybe being exposed to endless amounts of porn at age 11 warped her brain

But yet she still recommends that kids see porn until the interviewer catches her like wait, what was that? And then she backtracks. Lol

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xxNoEbA7qLA

Part of that is porn addicted males reading their experiences into the experiences of female porn users.

[shovelquest]

Lilly phiips sitting down with BBC is diabolical

🤣🤣🤣 I wonder if she planned that.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Part of that is porn addicted males reading their experiences into the experiences of female porn users.

For sure

But I postulate that having an endless supply of porn at one’s fingertips from childhood (for most kids, some parents are better than others in protecting what their kids can see online) has had an affect on literally everybody, and all that varies is how much of an affect (tiny to the point of insignificant all the way to life ruining and everything in between). We can’t guess exactly how that effect manifests, but I also postulate for most people I am guessing was not “sex confidence” or whatever she said, but a negative effect. Maybe a tiny negative for many, but still a negative

Then there’s considering what effect generations being raised on porn has contributed to the popularity of onlyfans or how many girls are now embracing prostitution as a means of easy upward mobility and not necessity to survive as generations has with the world’s oldest profession in the past

I’m not a purist though. I don’t think it should be banned. I just don’t recommend watching. And brothels should remain a thing, but remain tucked away into the seedier parts of town. I can’t explain exactly why making these things mainstream is bad. I just know it is. Deep in my balls :)

[shovelquest]

I think males today are just so fucked, watching porn = gay.

Andrew tate. Feminism. My god. If i was gen A... All I had to worry about was not being caught listening to the wrong band because it was too mainstream.

[Trexller]

Andrew Tate is the product of an entire generation of men growing up without a strong, moral and positive role model. Without that they are gonna latch onto whatever seems like it's a strong male path. He is a caricature of what macho used to be. He's like if you told AI to generate the quintessential male personality. It's surface level with no depth.

My biological dad was an old school macho figure who was raised by a WW2 and Korea veteran, and he died when I was 20.

My step dad is a good man but he's the total opposite, he's 6'5 but also is hyper liberal and believes men should follow women. He's got a PHD in chemistry and is highly intelligent, but he also got pushed around in business, pushed around by his first wife, pushed around by everyone.

Having been basically raised by both of these guys I can see the necessity for a strong force who is capable of putting their foot down. The paths we choose are rarely right or wrong, but to get anywhere requires steadfast commitment to a path. you can't be wishy washy and live your life to please everyone, because regardless of what you do, you will never make everyone happy, in fact you are sure to upset those who disagree.

Without having a society of positive male role models, modern "macho" men in 2025 have regressed into cavemen with smartphones. Guys like Andrew Tate who measure their worth by female body count and think it's ok to lock girls in rooms with webcams because he is physically dominant.

We had an entire generation of men who witnessed carnage and gore on the battlefield, then returned home and raised the boomer males to be steadfast and moral. The boomers had easy cushy lives and remembered their strict upbringings and felt like the Gen X males should just do whatever makes them happy and feel good.

Veterans that don't end up losing their minds make the best dads, hands down.

[Reiwa]

I’m not a purist though. I don’t think it should be banned. I just don’t recommend watching. And brothels should remain a thing, but remain tucked away into the seedier parts of town. I can’t explain exactly why making these things mainstream is bad. I just know it is. Deep in my balls :)

https://erisapros.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/news_erisa_pros_camel-300x300.jpg

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Blessed weather for a lake day date. Made a good impression with her and with the ducks I fed. Hey, finally my phone doesn’t have to fight me about typing “duck” for once. Don’t get used to it, phone, I usually mean fuck

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

From taking a walk to a trailhead on my date today:

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I don’t know exactly why I don’t like this story…

On one hand, way to go, I’d say well played to saving up $11k after 10 years for a deserved nose job, and compliments to the surgeon, that came out great

But then turning around and saying hey hubby I’m slightly more attractive now, so I can do better than you, PEACE gives me the ick. So does that phrase btw….

Oh now I know why I don’t like this story. Because no one gives a fuck about the sanctity of marriage anymore these days….

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/8mYoaSS12h0

[shovelquest]

Woman that looks like a literal witch uses dark magic illusion spell that requires desolation of a marriage to cast.

Checks out.

[Reiwa]

that's a hilarious nose.

I'm glad she had it fixed.

[Reiwa]

The spouses of her children should be allowed to recover damages though.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

that's a hilarious nose.

I'm glad she had it fixed.

She had a nose so large she could literally smell crime

That’s her on the left

[Reiwa]

https://www.azquotes.com/picture-quotes/quote-to-inspire-love-is-a-woman-s-greatest-ambition-believe-me-it-s-the-one-thing-woman-care-moliere-56-3-0385.jpg

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Positive male role models are out there. I thought Chris Williamson is a good example as his takes are usually nuanced and reasonable, although he is right-leaning obviously

People like him don’t say enough crazy edgy stupid shit to show up on anyone’s radar. There’s a reason why manosphere bro’s say that dumb shit: it SELLS

Next time Bill should critique what Americans choose to pay attention to, that’s the real issue

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fV8YldywoLA

[shovelquest]

Yeah.

Hollywood is dead.

[Swish]

:)

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Ouch

[Ekco]

https://i.imgur.com/P8Mc343.gif

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

“Can a couple with a 40 year age gap make it work?”

Hmmm. Well you probably would only need to make it work another few years before the guy dies of old age. So….maybe? She could be his wife/caregiver and clean the applesauce he dribbles during 5pm dinner

Just once I’d like to see one of these where the 59 year old is broke as fuck. Just borderline homeless. And the chick is rich. Then I might think it’s love

[Reiwa]

Do you ever think Edward R Murrow wished people goodnight and goodluck because he wanted them to score with the ladies?

[Ekco]

Do you ever think Edward R Murrow wished people goodnight and goodluck because he wanted them to score with the ladies?

that's a good question, idk

always been more of a Dan Rathers man myself, pretty sure REM never wrote a song about Murrow

and nobody ever did this with his clips
hh-Z8_6_m4Q

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Do you ever think Edward R Murrow wished people goodnight and goodluck because he wanted them to score with the ladies?

I always thought that goodbye sounded kinda ominous actually. Never once thought it could mean dating, I moreso thought it was about survival…

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

For me replace gf with hooker, and add “right before I have to pay” ;)

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Hmm

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Smart play to wear your own name on your shirt after you’ve fucked your face up so much you are basically unrecognizable

[shovelquest]

I would love to run into her IRL and just turn and SCREAM like just the sight of her scared the shit out of me lol

[shovelquest]

If i was president, I would make kathy and carrot top make a baby right now.

[Swish]

Cynthia from Rugrats, lmao

[Ekco]

https://i.imgur.com/lh3IDgs.jpeg

[Reiwa]

If i was president, I would make kathy and carrot top make a baby right now.

They're both over 60. Good thing we have the IVF President!

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

- Quiet and boring is still preferable to annoying when in public. Just live by the quote: “wise men speak because they have something to say, fools speak because they have to say something”

- A safe bet if having to talk is to ask the other person non-invasive questions about their life and act interested in the answers. Most people enjoy talking about themselves, especially if you validate or praise when appropriate. Can almost do no wrong with this one

[Ekco]

https://i.imgur.com/3tckbH4.jpeg

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Kind of an L take from ShoeOnHead here. I haven’t watched even to the mid-point yet but already I am disagreeing with almost everything she’s saying. And I have to constantly skip her cutesy skits she sticks in every 20 seconds to pad her video run time. And it’s annoying! And I hate it! Jk

But yea, I’ll go over all the issues I have with her shitty takes

- There ARE shitloads of men who have zero drive to get a good education, learn a trade skill that pays like welding or plumbing, and sit at home and play video games all day. Anyone denying this is fucking stupid, I’m sorry. There’s also as a segment of that group a shitload of men on the ASD spectrum, or who are socially awkward, which have rather than improving their social skills have used it as their excuse to be a fucking hermit. “I have type 2 diabetes, guess I’ll never be able to play sports and I should just sit and eat bon bons all day”. No, your issues are difficult, but that’s no reason to assume that you can’t improve

- And what does she want with her whining? Maybe I haven’t come to it, but saying that boo hoo the job market is so hard and boo hoo the houses are so expensive is NOT FUCKING CONSTRUCTIVE. No one wants to hear someone complain. It accomplishes jack shit. And is ShoeOnHead really so dumb as to assume that tons of women have no fucking idea how difficult the job market is or how expensive houses are? As if they need constant reminders from YouTube videos? What does ShoeOnHead think these women are doing? Sitting at nail salons and talking gossip about hip hop singers? No, lots of women get this shit. It’s just that constantly mentioning it just causes a disempowering effect. It’s the same reason it’s stupid for democrats to constant remind “marginalized people” how completely fucking impotent democrats think they are. You are making them not want to try at all, you realize that

Boo hoo, things are though right now, let’s all complain about it online and use it as an excuse to give the fuck up on life and love

I have to go run and gym, I’ll watch the rest after, but this vid better have a baller second half because the first half is fucking garbage IMO

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=M51v1dmhp1k

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

^
Oh another issue is when ShoeOnHead sarcastically implies that “pretty privilege” is what got that right wing girl she’s quoting her job on Fox News. She does this literally only a minute after cutting to a segment where clearly ShoeOnHead got all tarted up with makeup and hair styling and cute outfits to push her shitty product promos. Feel free to attack pretty privilege, it is a thing, but always comes across better to do it while looking modest and not all done up like you just left a salon. Otherwise you just come across looking like a fucking hypocrite

Also, the entire premise of these arguments are garbage. No matter which side “wins” whatever battle this is, both sides lose because all these vids do is further positioning men and women as in some adversarial relationship. Stop with the us vs them bullshit. It’s also not constructive! So what your side wins and the other side either cowers in defeat or resents you for it? Weeeee! That will sure make them like us!

[Reiwa]

Is it not wonderful to preach down from the temple mount upon your inferiors?

send post

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Is it not wonderful to preach down from the temple mount upon your inferiors?

send post

If you mean me, it’s not like I have any experience with playing video games 14 hours a day and getting less attention from women than an oil rig job. Noooo, not I

It’s real simple advice for anyone: get in good shape and grow a personality. Be someone that someone wants to have around. Doesn’t require money. Doesn’t require debatebro’ing the other side into submission

[Reiwa]

If you mean me, it’s not like I have any experience with playing video games 14 hours a day and getting less attention from women than an oil rig job. Noooo, not I

It’s real simple advice for anyone: get in good shape and grow a personality. Be someone that someone wants to have around. Doesn’t require money. Doesn’t require debatebro’ing the other side into submission

https://www.project1999.com/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=25753&stc=1&thumb=1&d=1752639892

I have already a personality. I don't think lifting heavy things is going to make him go away.

[shovelquest]

Life is like living inside a heroin store and staying sober.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I have already a personality. I don't think lifting heavy things is going to make him go away.

Make who go away? Him? The Night Man with his strong hands? ;)

Dunno what you mean. Getting in good shape shouldn’t be ABOUT getting a girl, because then you’re just another one of those who’s going to get fat as fuck as soon as they’re in a long term relationship or married. But if someone can find a few other good motivations to get in good shape like maybe more confidence, or how about better life expectancy, or for simple enjoyment (since there’s like a million diff things that someone can do to get in good shape), a byproduct is that it will help with women

My advice is: get in good shape for some non-corruptible reason (doing it for another person is corruptible) or ideally for the love of the game, and by grow a personality I mean improve your personality to the point where people want to be your friend and have you around. Being more aesthetic only helps. Any chick who says looks don’t matter are lying. Looks might not be the end all be all like it is for most guys, but for most women it’s in their top 3. Your face you can’t control besides grooming, the rest of you you can. And it doesn’t have to be jacked, just tone and aesthetic and ideally lean

Or someone could go the route of growing a personality and developing a bunch of other skills. I feel like this will make that person attractive to a more narrow range of women than simply improving aesthetics would, but if someone is allergic to exercise, then there’s that

[Reiwa]

Thai police arrest woman who allegedly seduced and blackmailed Buddhist monks (https://lite.cnn.com/2025/07/16/asia/thai-police-monk-seduction-scandal-intl-hnk)

Police in Thailand arrested a woman Tuesday who allegedly enticed a string of Buddhist monks into sexual relationships and then pressured them into making large payments to cover up their intimacy.

Scandals involving monks surface a few times a year in Thailand but usually don’t involve senior members of the clergy.

[Ekco]

If you mean me, it’s not like I have any experience with playing video games 14 hours a day and getting less attention from women than an oil rig job. Noooo, not I

It’s real simple advice for anyone: get in good shape and grow a personality. Be someone that someone wants to have around. Doesn’t require money. Doesn’t require debatebro’ing the other side into submission

https://media.tenor.com/UbArlMiO7nQAAAAM/tdjakes-pastor.gif

my goal is to get in good shape, grow a personality and then shoot women down that approach me by telling them I'm in a monogamous relationship with my computer who doesn't have tattoos, student debt or kids. /s

https://i.imgur.com/NqMCG2u.png

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

The thing I would always go back and forth on with the argumentative blackpilled bros on Reddit was: Too many guys think they have no chance with women because they are porn brained and try to date way the fuck out of their league

If you want women to give you a shot with little or no physical attraction, why don’t you fucking try it? Ask a girl out that you have no physical attraction to. And I mean do this AFTER doing a shitload of work on yourself. Date an ugly girl

“Absolutely not you moron, wow waste my time and hers??”

Me: waste what? 45 fuckin minutes? Waste the cost of 2 cups of coffee? Who gives a fuck, it’s a first date. It’s experience. It’s socialization practice. It’s hearing someone else’s story. You are guaranteed to learn something

And maybe, just maybe, she might become more attractive as you talk for a multitude of reasons. But again, you have to have made yourself desirable enough to land a first date BEFORE you try this

[Reiwa]

The thing I would always go back and forth on with the argumentative blackpilled bros on Reddit was: Too many guys think they have no chance with women because they are porn brained and try to date way the fuck out of their league

If you want women to give you a shot with little or no physical attraction, why don’t you fucking try it? Ask a girl out that you have no physical attraction to. And I mean do this AFTER doing a shitload of work on yourself. Date an ugly girl

“Absolutely not you moron, wow waste my time and hers??”

Me: waste what? 45 fuckin minutes? Waste the cost of 2 cups of coffee? Who gives a fuck, it’s a first date. It’s experience. It’s socialization practice. It’s hearing someone else’s story. You are guaranteed to learn something

And maybe, just maybe, she might become more attractive as you talk for a multitude of reasons. But again, you have to have made yourself desirable enough to land a first date BEFORE you try this

Porn-braining is one of those accusations that shuts down any intelligent conversation in the favor of the one who invokes it.

https://media.tenor.com/mZZoOtDcouoAAAAM/stop-it-get-some-help.gif

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Oh and if someone really doesn’t want to spend money, a fucking banger first date idea is just to meet at a park and walk around it. Or anywhere scenic. Muuuuuch less pressure than sitting 2 feet away facing each other like a job interview. You can stare at the ground most of the way, just make sure to make solid eye contact and break touch barrier by touching her arm, spinning her to face you, or whatever to get her attention, and then ask a logistics question. “Do you want to continue going this way? Do you want to check out the pond? How many laps would you want to do?”

That way it’s easier for someone with anxiety but you can’t ignore eye contact 100% of the time looking straight and talking. Or look her way and make eye contact when you ask a question. But otherwise facing away is a huge pressure relief

And it’s fuuuuckin free

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Porn-braining is one of those accusations that shuts down any intelligent conversation in the favor of the one who invokes it.

https://media.tenor.com/mZZoOtDcouoAAAAM/stop-it-get-some-help.gif

Porn brained is a real phenomenon where someone has watched so many porn models and ridiculously beautiful girls for sexual fulfillment that they see average girls as ugly

I can retype it if you need further shutting down. Because it’s a real thing that exists

[Reiwa]

Oh and if someone really doesn’t want to spend money, a fucking banger first date idea is just to meet at a park and walk around it. Or anywhere scenic. Muuuuuch less pressure than sitting 2 feet away facing each other like a job interview. You can stare at the ground most of the way, just make sure to make solid eye contact and break touch barrier by touching her arm, spinning her to face you, or whatever to get her attention, and then ask a logistics question. “Do you want to continue going this way? Do you want to check out the pond? How many laps would you want to do?”

That way it’s easier for someone with anxiety but you can’t ignore eye contact 100% of the time looking straight and talking. Or look her way and make eye contact when you ask a question. But otherwise facing away is a huge pressure relief

And it’s fuuuuckin free

Eh, you're just repeating your favorite Youtubers now so I'm gonna drop it.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Eh, you're just repeating your favorite Youtubers now so I'm gonna drop it.

That’s entirely experienced based, as someone who’s done many many park walk dates

I never listened to date advice tbh, I learned by experience, getting rejected a shitload along the way like everyone else but the top 10%

You can say then why should someone follow your advice? Probably in a more clever way though knowing you

And that’s fine, ignore me and get out there in the trenches and learn by experience. Either way is all good

[Reiwa]

That’s entirely experienced based, as someone who’s done many many park walk dates

I never listened to date advice tbh, I learned by experience, getting rejected a shitload along the way like everyone else but the top 10%

You can say then why should someone follow your advice? Probably in a more clever way though knowing you

And that’s fine, ignore me and get out there in the trenches and learn by experience. Either way is all good

You own a house and have no bottom bitch?

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

You own a house and have no bottom bitch?

Oh are we talking about arbitrary measures of success? Like being able to get more dates in a weekend than I have time for if I choose to?

Or recently having a series of fun short term romantic relationships and a few fwb along that process?

Or is married the metric, as we know getting married means a happy and fulfilling relationship with no problems. If I ask a fat drunk girl at the bar to elope with me to Vegas, should I include it like a merit badge on my scout vest?

[Reiwa]

Oh are we talking about arbitrary measures of success? Like being able to get more dates in a weekend than I have time for if I choose to?

Or recently having a series of fun short term romantic relationships and a few fwb along that process?

Or is married the metric, as we know getting married means a happy and fulfilling relationship with no problems. If I ask a fat drunk girl at the bar to elope with me to Vegas, should I include it like a merit badge on my scout vest?

No you dared me to. I wanted to drop it.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

No you dared me to. I wanted to drop it.

Yea let’s recap:

First you said I was some superior talking to my inferiors, apparently not remembering that I started a fat depressed videos game addict rank 14 WoW gladiator who couldn’t get a date to save his life

Then you said my methods I stole from YouTubers as if I didn’t have a disastrous first date where I stared at the ground and mumbled my way around the park and realized at the end when I got ghosted I never once made eye contact? Yeah breugh, no chance that happened

Then you acting like I somehow don’t have experience dating, and aren’t already 50x more experienced than the dudes having issues despite having only started seriously a few years ago

[Reiwa]

Yea let’s recap:

First you said I was some superior talking to my inferiors, apparently not remembering that I started a fat depressed videos game addict rank 14 WoW gladiator who couldn’t get a date to save his life

Then you said my methods I stole from YouTubers as if I didn’t have a disastrous first date where I stared at the ground and mumbled my way around the park and realized at the end when I got ghosted I never once made eye contact? Yeah breugh, no chance that happened

Then you acting like I somehow don’t have experience dating, and aren’t already 50x more experienced than the dudes having issues despite having only started seriously a few years ago

There's no recap. Accept mercy as the terms. My cavalry has yet to commit.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

As an addendum: I can’t say I didn’t follow any advice. Not a YouTuber, but the best and only advice I ever followed was from my mom. She said to me multiple times: nothing matters until the first date

That resulted in a huge paradigm shift for me in both behavior and perception and it helped me a lot. Leave it to momma

Anywho

[Ekco]

https://i.imgur.com/Su7LZiE.png
https://i.imgur.com/p0foHIi.png

[Duik]

Girls arent something to be conquered.

[Ekco]

Well, no shit Duik.

And Alexander wept, for there were no more worlds to conquer also so expecting dudes not to make a game/competition with a (K/D) ratio is kinda naive

We play the game in front of us, rules as written because nice guys do indeed finish last.

[Duik]

The current girl doesnt care about ya DKP. The other girls dont count. It isnt about them. Its about her.
She does not value your previous DKP. Think of it more like changing guilds.

[shovelquest]

Yeah, women dont "care" about things and stuff lmao

They're objects, like duik says.

Nice one duik lmao glad we agree