Dating thread

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You are the right combination of success, personality and ethnicity to get what you want.

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there. There will be a lot.

But if you can weed through the sheer number of those girls looking for love their you can find one that will have the eastern mentality. The mentality of devotion and belief in family. Just be careful thou this culture easily gets home sick (so expect many visits... for her).

And even if you weren't looking for romance do you know the sheer number of American men that have fathered children over in the Philippines and have little to no interaction with their kids? It is crazy.

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

But I think you are missing out. Just again be careful.

In this day I can't believe when a man in West says it is impossible to find commitment.
Believe me there is no reason why you must limit yourself to Western beliefs (unless you are very religious).

There are a lot of woman looking.

Well said! Yea there can be an entirely different experience dating in different cultures

And there are tons of women out there. Yes the odds can be stacked against men with dating apps because there are more men than women, allowing women to be a bit more selective. But just because something has some challenge isn’t a reason to give up on the entire idea of dating. I can see giving up on apps but there are other ways to still meet people as you mentioned

I’ll offer a recent example:

I didn’t post about it but about 3 weeks ago I met a girl from Match at a coffee shop. I like to often pick coffee as a first date because it’s cheap. I always pick up the tab on dates and that gets expensive when dining out. But two $5 coffees? No problem, I gotchu, fam

So I meet this girl who didn’t have a lot on her profile. She was thin to medium build. Decent looking in the face. And we get to talking. And she comes right out with “I’m a bit of a computer nerd. I work in IT on cybersecurity, and in my free time I LOOOOVVE playing Final Fantasy 14”

I remember thinking look at this a computer nerd girl. Now my standards are kind of stupid high (very pretty girls only for NopeNopeNopeNope) so I ended up not following up after the first date because I wasn’t into her look enough. But I guarantee a lot of the lonely nerds online would have been ALL ABOUT this girl

There’s a lotta girls out there (depending on where you live) with a lot of different personalities or interests

And even if a date doesn’t work out, which happens a LOT, it’s still nice to meet people and hear their stories, I often end up learning something. Like this last girl I mentioned talked about how she had to bust an employee for surfing porn on his work phone. Because I had asked her “I bet you find some wild stuff on people’s electronics doing IT huh?” And her stories were entertaining

And like Loramin mentioned, it’s good practice even when it doesn’t work out

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Now I was part of an arranged marriage which I wholeheartedly believe in as I now reach my 10 year.

I actually had a couple clients at work talk about their arranged marriages, all successes

And I understand them better now. I can totally see how they work [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

[Ekco]

Originally Posted by NopeNopeNopeNope [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

A good analogy is the DnD scenario with the treasure and the dragon. The reason those fantasy stories are compelling is that it’s not just some pile of the treasure in a cave. The main character has to face the most difficult and terrifying thing they’ve ever faced, a freaking dragon, in order to get that treasure. The dragon being an effective metaphor for one’s issues and insecurities holding them back

There’s an old quote I like that says something like “that which you want most will be found where you least want to look”

my fav DnD dragon analogy quote

“Fairy tales are more than true – not because they tell us dragons exist, but because they tell us dragons can be beaten.”

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Oh yea and Botten I don’t really travel but I could totally see meeting a girl abroad like Philippines or Thailand

Maybe one day but I am really not looking to settle down with anyone (and I worry that those girls might be). I am in my prime compared to how I was (own a home, best shape of my life, no real baggage) and am really just enjoying playing the field atm after a long hiatus

But yea, I would otherwise love to meet some girls abroad

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Originally Posted by Ekco [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

my fav DnD dragon analogy quote

“Fairy tales are more than true – not because they tell us dragons exist, but because they tell us dragons can be beaten.”

Saving that one now too

[Jimjam]

Originally Posted by Roni Oren-Yagoda, Bar Oren, Idan M. Aderka, 2024

Safety behaviors are behaviors that aim to reduce unpleasant emotions, and/or reduce negative consequences. Despite the intention behind safety behaviors, they have been found to increase or maintain anxiety (especially in the long term).


This is a recent study in Safety behaviors and positive emotions in social anxiety disorder: it found when social anxiety was high, safety behaviors were negatively associated with positive emotions. It also found interacting with distant others (vs. close others) resulted in more safety behaviors.

[shovelquest]

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

You know NopeNopeNope you may not know this but you are probably still looking in the sense of the traditional American way to find romance.

You've ruined your own lands, you'll not ruin mine!

Originally Posted by Botten [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Seriously take a trip to the Philippine, Thailand or Japan. Be mindful of those that will fawn for you there.

Annnd there it is, sex tourism instead of finding a wife. You ruin lands.

[shovelquest]

Originally Posted by NopeNopeNopeNope [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

Well said!

No it wasn't he's telling you to buy a russian bride.

[Ekco]

you're suppose to get paid by the father for taking his daughter off his hands, modern world has it ass backwards.

i want my two goats damnit.

[shovelquest]

"I would like to marry a christian woman"

"HOLY SHIT that is racist not to mention transphobic, have you thought about going to thailand to fuck kids?"