Ladies of EQ, i summon you to a Thread

[constelllations]

I was talking with a friend of mine recently who also has gamed p heavily as a female, and she said something to the effect of like, "my female-ness and feminine qualities are not appreciated w men gaming and it affected who I was in-game" or something like that. My first reaction was "pff idk is this another one of those ways women like to call for attention that they are, in fact, female in a male-dominated space?" which was my own bias there I guess.

Anyway, it's something I've noticed recently grouping. I like to TALK, and I've noticed dudes don't like to talk as much. My bias too is thinking people who talk are not as skilled or serious about the game, when actually they just enjoy having fun and fucking around more. The social experience and people-ing is a part of my enjoyment of gameplay, and doesn't interfere with my ability to go hard if shit starts going down.

I was noticing this in group today. She was right! I think women tend to be into connective aspects, and just genuinely enjoying the game itself without needing to be The Best Ever and prove themselves like that, even if they are super skillful players also. You know?

Since friend said this I've been noticing it grouping w female players. They like to have fun and build connection. Dudes sometimes seem to lean towards grinding hard and shutting up unless there's something Important to say. It's not universal but something I've had my eye on recently. Anyway, this is not gender discourse more just curious psychology

Thank u for reading my dissertation

Curious if others (ladies) relate to this in any capacity