i think the point is, race/class penalties is something most people accept, it is just the fact that the penalty is then applied to the entire group, is what people would mostly like to see be changed/removed.
as far as the people saying they refuse to play such-and-such class because of it, or refusing to play period, is where i firmly say, good riddance.
and if you're the type of person who refuses to party with a penalty class/race based on the penalty alone, you're just a plain old baddie. but as a consolation prize, here's something that would probably interest you more than this server.
http://www.hellokittyonline.com/
edit for clarity. (no pun intended)