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Originally Posted by shovelquest
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Itd be cool if people tried to connect incels from both sexes together instead of shitting all over them while they tell me step aside for fat chicks.
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Lol I always take a mantra of you should never insist on a girl being in better shape than you. Due to men and women’s different (men are more into it) views on working out, I only consider that one direction. Meaning to me, it is completely fine for a girl to insist on a guy being in better shape than her, but not the reverse of this
But because I am in good shape with a 34 clothes waistline for men, I also would like a girl I date to be comparable….
….However, I think these people like in that vid I linked who go on the internet and rage about their rejections are just dumb. Or insane, if we are going with the non-accurate old school quote “insanity is continuing to do the same thing and expect a different result”
My experience in getting in good shape and then getting back into dating a few years ago (after like a 6ish year hiatus) was that initially I was doing what that girl in the vid was doing. And what the narrator is probably doing. Which was going for people significantly more attractive than me. Now I wouldn’t always get rejected on the app. Sometimes I could set up a first date by being as witty as I could. And then I’d get ghosted after the first date
The first few hit like a punch to the balls. I think I almost got choked up after my second or third rejection. Then after like 8 or so more they still hurt but not nearly as much, eventually hardly at all. Nowadays after a few successful (albeit short, less than a full year) relationships, rejections don’t affect me at all, confidence wise. They literally have zero effect now
But when I was starting out, I realized I needed to adjust and lower my standards a little. Then I lowered them again. I actually went out on a few dates with girls where I had zero attraction to their picture. I didn’t think it was ugly or anything. Just not “attractive”. Just plain old neutral. But there were times on the date where the girl would say something I liked and smile a certain way and I’d think “ooh ok, I feel some attraction now”. It didn’t end up working out (I believe they happened to ghost me interestingly enough). But it did open my eyes to the idea that pictures cannot convey a person. And a person can “
become” attractive in how they carry themselves or act
I guess the male version is easier for me to describe. There are some guys who really objectively are not that great looking. But they have a certain style or way they talk or carry themselves that oozes confidence and charisma. Well, there’s a girl version of that too. But people won’t realize it unless they go for girls that they may not have been all that attracted to some still-frame picture