Preface: If you have the pp, you can do the following.
Primary instruments are what you are after.
-
https://wiki.project1999.com/Lute_of_the_Howler
-
https://wiki.project1999.com/Drums_of_the_Beast
-
https://wiki.project1999.com/Efreeti_War_Horn
- (alt
https://wiki.project1999.com/Singing_Short_Sword)
With primary instruments, you can melee and swap in the instrument right before the song lands for maximum benefit.
This way you get melee DPS (which can be pretty ok with decent weapons) and max dot damage. This is the way.
For fear-kiting, grab a pair of
https://wiki.project1999.com/Singing_Steel_Greaves to free up a song slot and fear away.