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Originally Posted by Tethler
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I never understood sex tourism. Being with someone that wants to be with you is going to be a much better experience than paying someone to law down and open their legs. I'd rather take a shot trying to pick someone up and failing, than paying a decent chunk of change for bad sex.
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Well, this is ... let me put it this way.
I work with a lot of older, mature, with kids and family men.
Believe it or not, these kinds of "services" are the only places where they can "relax".
Is it good, moral, healthy? That is another topic and usually speaks more about you than they.
Point being is that some men can only find solace and comfort in prostitution.
And I am not talking low income blue collar men, I am talking white collar professionals that work for multinational corporations.
I can remember right away several that despite their "success" , salaries, jobs, gadgets whatnot yadda yadda , they are much more comfortable in these type of stablishments and using these services than asking their wives and girlfriends for "kinky" or even "plain" stuff.
I dont want to sound like a "macho" guy, but despite all the current (and positive) effort in understanding women for example, there is a very specific subsector of manhood that is poorly understood by the common people.
Men, like women have feelings, needs and wants that are usually put aside and shoehorned for their "expected" roles in society , family and social relationships.
Not all men are rapists horny patriarchal representatives of the subjugation of women, some men, a good chunk of them are just guys that want what is expected from them and sometimes lack the emotional and psychological tools to express their needs in a way that is healthy for them or that will not let them be ridiculed.
I dont want to turn this into a us vs them wordplay, just want to give you an insight into why as a species we also need to teach men to properly cope with their own emotional needs without ridicule, because for those men, sometimes it is extremely easy and gratifying to just pay for it and be done with it.
Not all men that consume these services are amoral beasts of lust nor representatives of Cultural Oppression ... they are just guys that can only cope with the stress of their own lives in that way.
Any moral judgment is moot , because they will continue doing it and yes, prostitution can lead to a lot of very bad things, but again that is like beyond the small single point I am trying to convey.
I dont like doing that, neither do you, but A LOT of men enjoy it and find their only emotional drain in that.
Even the Jap guy in the video posted earlier jokingly says that is the only way for them to have meaningful and good sex, because they cant have it with their wives ... and that is not only a japanese thing.
I have seen men derive as much pleasure from their wives in any kind of situation , sexual or affection related as grating their own balls with a industrial size cheese grater.
So yeah, going to a establishment is much better, heck even more emotionally satisfying for them.
I do not judge them, and one of my closest friends found release and even a better relationship with his wife after going to these places, by my recommendation in Australia , where prostitution is not only legal but highly regulated.
Hope this helps you understand why some men do it.
Hope you have a wonderful day fellow P99 player! Big hugs to you!
Cheers!