I replied to your RnF thread on the same topic, here's a little piece about handling rejection.
You Suck. think about it. did that bother you? should it have bothered you? are you even bothered by my insult? Good. Now apply that to women who catch your eye.
Advances rejected by an object of affection come with several punches. First, you can't pursue something you wanted, Second, an object of affection is elevated in the mind of the beholder thusly if such a thing has rejected the beholder, the logical conclusion must be some perceived short coming of said beholder.
Real Truth: Who the fuck knows why anyone does anything? No one. Did she reject you because you're fat n' ugly? or did she reject you because she just got out of a bad relationship, and feels like she cannot take on anything new right now? Or did she reject you because she herself feels inadequate?
There are millions of reasons, if you let yourself become hung up on the why or what, there is literally a pheromone stench of desperation. Some chemical that lets other animals know, "This Bro Doesn't Fuck" You can't shower it off, or cover it in colonge or smother it in AXE body spray. So you gotta stay cool, stoic, aloof. You don't need them, they need you, this is the image you must cultivate. Do things like ignoring women you wanna talk to, while engineering tiny little moments of contact, simple as holding a door.
tiny example: theres this new chicky at work, and last week it snowed. She parked 4 cars down from mine. I cleaned the snow off of 2 cars up from mine, and 4 cars down. I told no one. They asked around and it came to me and I said yeah I did that. The other folks were like thanks bro, and new chicky went off on some thing about how much men suck these days and its great that I did this for those people. Boom, I'm in. theres alot yet to do, but i'll get there soon. If i had only cleaned off her car, it would have been super awkward for her, and she would have clammed up, retreated etc.
Make it a hobby, see how far you can play these human mating ritual bullshit games. The entire business of dating is bullshit really, we all want the same things, yet we all play mindfuck games and dance around the issue.
When i was a kid, I was awkward AF, didn't even have the balls to talk to a pretty girl at school. The looming threat of rejection was such a bitch. One day i realized i was more afraid of the feeling of rejection, than i was of actually being rejected. I realized I didn't care if she says No, I cared about WHY she said no.
Here's what I did: For a long time, years, I asked out every girl with a decent body. All of them. Married, dating someone, IDC. I never broke the "bro code" though, if i know the guy she is dating, I don't try anything.
It's aversion therapy, immerse yourself in that thing which bothers you the most. Hit on women whom you don't care if she says yes or no, just pick someone and go for it.
If she says yes, you're probably gonna get laid in a date or two, if she says no, then what have you lost?
Nothing! because you didnt care to begin with.
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