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Originally Posted by blindedsoul
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My g/f has a story of a family member (uncle or stl a father) he was in a custody dispute, the mother ran with the child across state lines 1k+ miles away and STILL got custody of the child.
She also contacted the family that was renting to the father and adamantly demanded they void their rental agreement mid contract to "make him look unstable and without a home"
The US custody system is sick
The woman took the child and fled the state and still got custody that would NEVER happen for a man
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Plus parents are sick too. The things they will do to try to screw over the other parent sometimes has no limits. Even just constantly shit-talking the other parent can be really damaging to a kid. I have to tread carefully because it’s not my place, but I try to often make a suggestion that even though a parent knows the other parent is shit-talking them to their little kid, it’s best to try to be the bigger person and not fight fire with fire. That’s still the kids mom (or dad), and it’s not good for a 10 year old to hear every day that his mom is a lying whore, etc
The other way I see parents win custody disputes is to just be the cool parent, the friend parent, the parent that has no expectations or consequences. This works great for kids that are 13+ because past 13 the kid has a very large say in court as to where they go. And there is never going to be a 14 year old with the maturity to say “yknow what I really love about dad’s (or mom’s) is that they expect me to do chores and be responsible, and have appropriate consequences when I make bad choices”. Nope. Kids will always pick the path of least resistance, so if you want to win your custody dispute with your teen, be the cool parent, be the no rules parent
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