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https://www.nyu.edu/gsas/dept/philo/...c.Pers.DSM.pdf


https://www.quora.com/How-does-a-nar...the-goal-posts

When a narcissist moves the goal posts, they constantly shift and redefine expectations so that they can never be met. It's a manipulation tactic and a form of gaslighting they use to make their partners feel worthless and never good enough.

By moving the goal posts, the narcissist comes up with reasons to never be satisfied with you. For example, after you've fulfilled their request to spend more time focusing on their needs, they criticize you for not being independent. Their shifting expectations may not even be related. The point is to make you jump through hoops and manipulate you.

By continuously changing expectations, the narcissist makes their partner feel bad about themselves and can also make them feel anxious about meeting more of their expectations. The narcissist’s manipulative game will never end, and they will never be satisfied.

By agreeing then ignoring the agreement, then doing exactly what they first wanted and conceded in a previous debate.

It ignores the promise, ridicules the debate prior, violates your trust, humiliates your integrity, and gives them the power to take whatever they can.

It is underhanded and dishonest and you eventually see it often as though your issues and agreement mean zero.