I went to school and had some bad thoughts when I was young. I'm not sure how much more teachers can do.
A lot is mass media and violence in culture. And a lot is due to ppl without hope. Some of its due to ppl having their hands tied around violent kids. Some of it is godlessness because kids are taught to worship idols, celebrity, ideas. That that's somehow more important than respect and courtesy.
It's many shades of things that I think all eventually come together to break the human spirit. And I can't solidly place my finger on it. But males particularly I think are neglected. Perhaps expected to reach for unreasonable ideals. And you're right there's a lot of shaming.
I'm not sure how individuals can fix that beyond giving men roll models that don't suck.
I was always put down hard by everyone in school and at home by a father who thought I was a week crybaby. I pulled the legs off bugs and retreated into EQ and other violent hobbies. I am not saying these kids are like me or queer. But my response to not being a man in societies eyes was to overcompensate.
I think when we make the ideals of manhood extreme and simultaneously put boys down for not measuring up. And we have a fearful and socially disjointed disconnected society we are seeing this intersection with ppl suffering pathological circumstances as well. Wether their a bit psychopathic. From an abusive family. Addicted. Or sucked in my extremism of some form. Without good friends.
I got bullied a lot. But even I had one or two other kids who looked after me and stepped in. They held my hate I'm check a little. They stopped me from being able to rationally accuse everyone of deserving death.
I think everyone is on their cellphones and stuck in cliques and isolated from each other and were told to hate those who aren't with us and like us. And yah. Definitely the left shoulders blame here sometimes. But we've got to have a reality check as parents, brothers, sisters, friends, peers. We've got to look out there and give ppl hope. Especially young angry boys who are getting messages that the world is ending and that they are "born to kill".
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