What do you mean when you say you can't link your eqemu account to your account on these forums?
If you go here:
https://www.project1999.com/account/?Link
Your eqemu account isn't recognized or what? If you link your eqemu account, I would assume its easier to manage password issues with game accounts that way. I haven't used eqemu in a long time, so I wouldn't be able to help on that front.