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Originally Posted by rahmani
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OP, being fat or letting go in your thirties has a lot more to do with just saying "fuck it, I can't keep up." Depending on the age or station in your life, there are a lot of things that can make someone just give up, here are a few: shortness, acne (scars), baldness, other perceived shortcomings. I have seen it in my friends as we are aging, the balding ones are the worst though, they seem like they just gave the fuck up. But then there are those who overcompensate, and I don't think that's a strategy that can persist for very long.
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Thank you. Been saying this for years but the people who post on this forum have such a tiny small pool of fake imaginary friends that they have no idea what I'm referring to. They can't even fathom the scenario because they are so under-socialized.
I've lost a lot of friends to balding. They literally graduated from good schools, spent 250k on it and got straight A's, and then just stopped caring about anything that requires effort. Personal appearance, clothes, fashion, girls, bros and good times, etc. They shut down and just kill time with TV, some newspapers, and caring for elderly grandparents/grandmother who are already cared for by their daughter/son anyway. "I gotta take care of my grandmother" when pressed about why nothing is moving forward in their life. I thought about pressing further and asking what gives with him not carrying his weight as far as swag factor, appearance, and bros and hoes, but I stopped way short of that because, really, I already knew the answer. I tried to give him recs to lift his mood and try to get him feeling good again but I shit you not, he was on 2-3 drugs even adderall and had nothing to say still and was mopey and deadass with 0 energy. Oh by the way the grandmother he cares for so dearly calls him a gay wizard spell because he has nothing going on and no ladies going on. So here he is saying im caring for some elderly while throwing my life away over balding, while the person he "cares" so much for is calling him a buttboy to his face as he cares for her at her bedside...
We suspected thyroid issues just due to how much of a deadass he became. A huge fucking loser. Then I started thinking about it. I was like man, seems to coincide with 2 things. 1) Graduating college and 2) balding heavily on the crown and heavy recession of the hairline with diffuse loss all over. His whole top was blown off and he had to wear a hat 24/7 while hanging out. One time one of my friends smacked the hat off his head because he jewed down on a tip at a bar my friends local friend worked at. So my friend slapped him upside the head because he admitted to jewing down to his face. The balding was revealed and it shook him up.
He lost weight one time and got model thin around age 25-26, but the balding was so severe that he ballooned up 100 pounds within a mere 3-4 months and was back to his fat slag do-nothing self later that year with 0 plans and 0 ambition.
The reality is he didn't want to abandon his family in pursuit of a career in broadcasting. Working 70 hours a week means you have to cut family off. Mainly leave his mom alone with his father who is a shitbag and former drug addict. I get that...but there wasn't this huge emo attitude and settle down decision making prior to the balding.
That is just 1 example of 20-30 examples I have off hand.