Quote:
Originally Posted by mickmoranis
[You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]
look another white male trying to tell me how I should feel about my own rape.
NEXT
|
I never did nor would I ever presume to do that. This is something I feel very passionately about (not about white males, but about anyone telling any trauma victim how to feel). Please re-read my post and I think you'll find I did not do that.
Quote:
Originally Posted by mickmoranis
[You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]
let me explain something:
When talking about rape culture, you are getting self gratification and are being selifsh.
You are not stopping future rapes by yelling about how wrong you think rape is.
Rapists do not care what you think at all.
Victims have to listen to you.
Keep your mouth shut about it and volunteer somewhere in private to help individuals that ask for your help.
|
Look I said I'd get off the topic, but if you're going to bring it up ... you are 100% right, you don't stop future rapes by yelling about how wrong you think rape is. You stop rapes by changing society so that men aren't defined by their society as the "strong/powerful gender" and women aren't defined as the "passive/submissive gender" (and of course those aren't binary distinctions, it's a matter of degrees).
Again, on a societal level, rape correlates with women in that society having little power. Although no one is taking surveys or anything, you can be pretty sure women are raped with much greater frequency in somewhere like Afghanistan than here, because women have more power and agency in our society.
So the way you stop rape (of both men and women) is to get people to realize, and reinforce to their peer group, that it's ok for men to be passive and for women to be assertive ... which is one part of the larger gestalt of feminism, ie. the thing I waste way too much of my time arguing for in elf sim forums.
It's not easy, it's not fun, and it's far from guaranteed to be successful ... but if you really want to fight an evil like rape you have to be willing to do what it takes to win, even if it's incredibly hard and difficult.