Bump. for anyone else experiencing this - after alot of troubleshooting and some help from some tech savvy ppl this is a packletloss issue.
http://winmtr.net/download-winmtr/
plug straight into your modem, disable other devices, run this software and connect to one of p99's IP 66.55.145.2. also try google's 8.8.8.8
the 2nd number in the collumn after the host name shows hte % of packets lost. gonna get a tech out here soon as i can ill post what he says
i was getting 5% packloss across pretty much everything i would try to connect to. to give an example of what this did in everquest - i would target a mob, and /con it in half secound intervals, at around every 15-20 secound the con messages would stop, then after a few seconds a bunch of con messages would appear in the chat window like it was trying to catch up.
another example - im running for my life trying to open a door, 2 seconds goes by after i click the door before it opens all the while mobs beating on me