Wow, it never fails to amaze me when I encounter situations such as this one that could have been easily avoided with a little communication.
Working under the assumption that the loot rules were determined prior to the OP joining and upon joining he was informed of the loot rules, then he certainly is to blame for ensuring that he understood them. However, when the dispute arose (i.e. him wanting NBG, and you wanting /random) a discussion should have taken place prior to proceeding with awarding anyone loot. To simply ignore a group member and carry on is completely unacceptable. You invited him into your group and as such, you have a responsibility to him as a group member. If he wasn't working out in the group as you claim you should have parted ways with him.
If I had been in your situation, what I would have done was stop pulls and explain to him that there were predetermined loot rules. If he still had a problem with it, I would ask the group vote on it (i.e. you should win 5 to 1). At this point I would explain to him that the group had out-voted him, and that we would be rolling on the item, his failure to roll would be taken as him forfeiting his opportunity at the loot as we had reached a point where discussion was useless and the group must carry on. After awarding the loot, and offering him his fair chance at the loot, I would politely ask him to leave the group because it was clearly not working out.
The problem here seems to be that no one was communicating and there were a lot of ridiculous assumptions being thrown around. It isn't very hard to settle most issues in a democratic manner, but you do have to make some effort.
Also, TURN YOUR LOG FILE ON! My log file dates back to like March of 2010 because I keep it on at all times for situations like this. While logs aren't quite screenshots, they are definitely better than nothing and can present what happened in an objective manner.
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