If you're looking for community, I strongly suggest Project 2002.
http://p2002.com/
Things you will find on Project 2002:
- High levels regularly gathered at the soul binder in PoK offering buffs
- A leveling guild, welcoming new players
- Polite ooc responses to legitimate questions
I highly suggest trying P2002 if you are considering PoP era Everquest.
I have tried another server to make sure I wasn't missing anything. Higher population does not equal community.