http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denial
also, arent you the one who asked for advice on a message board...
PS a lot of us are married soooo yeah.
Giving some random dude a BJ while in a relationship is not harmless btw.
HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea( its nasty when it infects the mouth), Herpes, chlamidia, Hepatitis, Genital warts (these look gnarly on the gums/tongue btw)!
I could go on but meh