Quote:
Originally Posted by Vlak
[You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]
This post mentions an observable cultural norm that men are supposed to approach women and not the other way around. Well, let's think about that, why does this norm exist? Is it biologically-based or is it, as you say, cultural, and therefore in the realm of control by its constituent individuals?
If there's a norm for you to approach a woman, what about a woman who goes out to approach a man? It's not normative by your own definition, so I'd say it's even more difficult for her.
|
This is might be true, I wouldn't know. Although, the reason I didn't address it is not because it's something that's not tolerated: it simply isn't expected. I don't think there is going to be a public uproar over a female player approaching a male player.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Vlak
[You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]
That said, I agree that showing interest in someone online is not, inherently, offensive. The manner of expression, or its frequency is an entirely different matter.
|
Yes.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Vlak
[You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]
Also, being interested in someone, even in-game, just because they're a female? It's the RL equivalent of going into a library full of strangers and chatting up every woman you see. Yes you're all in the same place likely with the same purpose, maybe even the same interest, but your only real reason for talking to them is that they are all female. Seem a bit off?
|
Men do this. And not just shitty ones, either. If you have an all male work environment, and your only friends are men, their girl friends, wives and other women in relationships, then you need to intentionally locate a pool of eligible candidates in the event that you want a relationship.
Of course they're going to talk to all the women in the same place with the same potential interests as themselves: assuming they have the motivation to. How else are they supposed to learn more about them? And as you suggested, it might be even harder for these hypothetical women to approach the man, so
someone has to do it.
Somewhere down the line the majority of us would have never have been born if men just figured, "oh, I better not talk to this woman I've never met before." I'd also like to add that finding a woman with similar interests is probably a more modern invention. Before the prerequisites were probably limited to:
I bet she looks good naked.
Her father is an important person.
She seems like the kind of woman who knows how to maintain clean a hose hold.
Objectification etc.