connecting......
 

When i run P1999 to after following all the steps listed, now it just says patching "Patching Everquest Connecting...." indefinitely, but does not seem to be doing anything.

It says connection failure to contact my SOE tech support dude... makes no sense.

Never mind i figured out what i did wrong

One day someone is going to come across this thread with the same issue and toss his keyboard because you didn't post the solution.

Yeah. You really don't want to ever patch through Sony.

the solution was the run the eqgame.exe with patchme in the shortcut :)