not charming on a druid is sad times

Was this like a "Let's see if we can pick a horrible combo and prove everybody wrong" situation?

I'm not opposed to charming, I was just expressing my fear and confessing my lack of skill regarding it. It's why I quit enchanter and it's why I'm having a hard time with it on a druid despite the safety tools they get and the limited focus their charming path has.

I am trying, though.

No, my sister just wanted to be a paladin (it was her main back in the day and she was trying to recreate it) and it was just me trying to find a class I could like that could potentially pair up well with her. Otherwise I could have stuck with my wizard where there would have been absolutely no synergy with a paladin.

You will definitely have a challenge post 30-40. But you can also do a lot of dungeon content with having Roots, Pacifies, and lots of survivability. Do Runnyeye, Sol A, etc. Chase the dungeons with low hp mobs and high ZEM bonus you'll be good. Make friends with a rogue to speed things up.

It could be fun, but also boring at times. Good luck!