how to get a wife started in mmorpg's

[loganhxh]

HOW?!?!!?!?! :(

seeking any useful advice/suggestions.

i am having a hard enough time getting her to sit down to try it. she actually got to level 18 in aion before getting bored of it. but going from an overhauled graphics game to one 10+ years old is having her hesitate.

she has already agreed to "try" it, but the fact it's taken her the past week to make a char says just how much she doesn't want to. so i am left with deciding between playing together immediately and holding her hand throughout, which may be boring. OR do i let her wander aimlessly as a newbie for a bit at first and risk her being overwhelmed, like everyone has done before falling in lo... err getting immersed.

if you're married to someone who doesn't play, then you can understand my fear of her deciding she doesn't want to play it. if she likes it though, hello EQ every night :D:D:D

[YendorLootmonkey]

You do realize it takes a glutton for punishment to enjoy all the long treks all over the continents, XP grinding, camping for loot, sitting/medding, etc, right? :) Try to sell her on the social aspect. Don't just run around PL'ing her... start a newb with her, and go find groups. Get her attached to the people, not the game itself. Then she'll be self-driven to keep up with her friends if she enjoys grouping up with them.

But if it's not for her, it's not for her. EQ is designed with lots of time-sinks and to some people it could be incredibly boring, and when it comes down to it, those people would need to get past the "why am I devoting all this time and effort into digital trinkets and 1's and 0's that won't matter?" (i.e. treat it as a fun distraction and not as a hardcore obsession.)

[Qian]

I'm working on getting my wife into the game also.

What I've done so far is started a pally to play most of the time with out her, and then made an alt to play with her, to hold her hand and walk her thru the noob areas.

Ironchef

[Yoite]

Yendor has a pretty good thought on the matter. Get her interested in the people side of it not so much the game side and she will play the game to play with the people.

[Aarone]

Yendor has a pretty good thought on the matter. Get her interested in the people side of it not so much the game side and she will play the game to play with the people.

Yendor's right on - she's far more likely to be "hooked" by the social aspects of the game than the "gaming" aspects (like most of us, really).

If that fails, I'd suggest slipping her a nice hypnotic, such as Chloral Hydrate - but watch out for when it wears off! ;)

[loganhxh]

well that's what i thought, i tried getting her into wow months ago, figuring it had the population for her to make lots of friends. she played for maybe 2 hours, got level 6 and quit before socializing.

the first thing most of us did that engaged us with strangers in this game, imo, was we had a question or needed help with something. holding someones hand prevents that from happening.

with my luck i'll have to resort to paying her to play :rolleyes:

[Omnimorph]

Yendor has a pretty good thought on the matter. Get her interested in the people side of it not so much the game side and she will play the game to play with the people.

And then when you find out she's cheating on you with a level 50 mage who is also a 14 year old nerd irl, you can go insane and bash her in with a hammer...

I would agree that getting her up to level 10 quickly and having her group somewhere would be a good idea.

[YendorLootmonkey]

with my luck i'll have to resort to paying her to play :rolleyes:

Go down on her every time she levels.

[Shannacore]

Go down on her every time she levels.

^ that

[YendorLootmonkey]

See? I know what the ladies like.

[Deathrydar]

My fiancee used to bash these games all of the time. She started to notice how much fun I had while playing though, and when I was playing SoD one night, she said she wanted to play.

I had her create a character and we started out together and I noticed that she was just playing for the fun of it. She loved running around and stuff. She started to like the game, and then she even started playing WoW with me, but I messed up once I started playing my main characters and not playing with her. Seems that she only liked playing because she was spending time with me and I just wanted to raid and stuff.

So, if you do get your wife/girlfriend to play, don't mess up like I did! Play with her and make it fun for her because most girls aren't playing for the same reasons that we are.

[Shannacore]

Go down on her every time she levels.

THIS IS ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW

[Dantes]

Good luck. My fiance despises the game - she won't even try. She says it's ridiculous, yet she has a cafe, farm and fish tank on FaceBook. Luckily for me I setup EQ night with my buddies on Thursdays, which is when she watches Gray's Anatomy - so I tell her, look, do something I hate... watch that show... and I'll do something you hate, play this game :p

[Yellow]

ouch, see this is why im glad i dont have to worry about this hahah, but i am trying to get some friends of mine to play... but they are all like meh, i dont want a hard game, and meh its graphics are bad, and meh im retarded. xD

[ShadowWulf]

My wife just kinda got involved in the game along side me back in 01 or 02. We also tried WoW, EQ2, darkfall, AoC, eve and a few others off and on over the years. SHE would be the one staying up till 4am to level an alt, my ass was busy working.

Tobe fair we also played table top D&D for a long time before i even get her involved in MMO's so that helped to ease her into it im sure. 10 years, and she's still with me on P1999. :cool:

[guineapig]

i am trying to get some friends of mine to play... but they are all like meh, i dont want a hard game, and meh its graphics are bad, and meh im retarded. xD

This made me laugh.

[Yellow]

Awesome man :] Nerd wife must be FTW xD

[ShadowWulf]

Awesome man :] Nerd wife must be FTW xD

Eh, i got her a new Droid yesterday. What does she do? Gets so involved in messing with it for the last 5 hours she let our tank die.

Twice.

[guineapig]

My wife will only play in very small doses. She loves asking questions about the lore and stuff and enjoys hearing stories about raids and laughs at some of our vent conversations though.

You have to admit camping in a game is a difficult concept to grasp when you haven't been doing it forever. You have yourself this huge open ended world filled with non-linear game-play elements and all this stuff to see and do. Yet the most efficient way to progress is to sit in one spot for extremely long periods of time, then find a new spot in another zone and do the same thing, rinse repeat.

I wish it would be easier for her to just run around the world willy-nilly with no consequences but imagine trying to do a corpse run when the person isn't even sure what zone they were in.

[Excision Rottun]

Go down on her every time she levels.

Unnecessary, simply give her a jar of peanut butter and make the dog sit in front of her, have her apply peanut butter every time she levels.

Everyone knows, ALL dogs love peanut butter.

[Yellow]

yeah i hate getting people into games, because they expect you to hold their hand the whole time, then if you do hold their hand they will be asking you questions for the umpteenth time and that gets old...

And if you dont help them they die, or fuck up and then BAM they blame it on you and everything is your fault including that icelandic volcano eruption....

[YendorLootmonkey]

Unnecessary, simply give her a jar of peanut butter and make the dog sit in front of her, have her apply peanut butter every time she levels.

Everyone knows, ALL dogs love peanut butter.

Don't give Shannacore any ideas.

[Shannacore]

Don't give Shannacore any ideas.

Baaaaaaaaaaaarfff

[Excision Rottun]

Baaaaaaaaaaaarfff

But it's not cheating because it's YOUR dog!

[Shannacore]

But it's not cheating because it's YOUR dog!

"Cheating" no longer exists for me IM FREE GAME YA'LL

[Slugs]

Divorce or game!

[YendorLootmonkey]

"Cheating" no longer exists for me IM FREE GAME YA'LL

I call dibs!

[Shannacore]

I call dibs!

Eeeeeehhh

[YendorLootmonkey]

Eeeeeehhh

My ego will not let me take that as anything other than a shriek of excitement.

[Omnimorph]

My ego will not let me take that as anything other than a shriek of excitement.

You must be the cockiest stalker around then :o

[YendorLootmonkey]

Hey, she said she was FREE GAME. I figured it was like calling "shotgun" as soon as the car is within sight, amirite??

[Excision Rottun]

Hey, she said she was FREE GAME. I figured it was like calling "shotgun" as soon as the car is within sight, amirite??

Shoulda called "shotgun no challenge".