Loretta
04-13-2010, 10:24 PM
Working with your boss as his only employee into the late hours, and early mornings can sometimes get kinda squirrly. Its kind of almost like a relationship you have between the two of you - And when you break up, whether its because you quit/or fired etc. there are phases that occur. You go through the whole phase where you are shocked, and wonder why all of this is happening, or go behind his/her back to set up a better deal for yourself because of growing suspicion. Either way the height of this is generally the phase of madness which can sometimes occur where it seems to be all-out-war and someone reaches a breaking point.
It happened to come together in a mighty clash last night into today for me and my boss - He reached that point, and cracked. Lets just say he fucked up royally, and this was the perfect stormy situation involving an unstoppable force, meets an immovable object - I was not going to take it any longer.
I'd taken enough abuse and all of the things I had done to go out of my way to appease him which lead to thankless days and frustrated nights had been building up over the course of many months - So in more recently weeks I had been preparing myself, and exploring my "other" suitors in my field of design.
Well needless to say, my former boss says hes sorry for being a douche and he didnt mean all those bad things he's said and that im a good girlfrien... I mean employee.
Anyway, he wants me back that much is obvious. I'm going to keep looking on the horizon for better option's - While I'm glad i'm able to go "Freelancing" on the stretch I'm way happier to be out of the position I was in where I felt I was forced to comply to his wishes and that I had no say in the matter - This made me feel worthless and had a psychological impact on me and my ability to look forward in my career because I was being held back.
I learned a good lesson from all of this, that sometimes standing up for yourself, even when it leads to conflict, is necessary to get where you want to be - This is something I especially needed to do more of but lacked the courage for until recently. Even though the breakup can be hard with periods of insanity, I think I'm better off for it.
Change is inevitable and I think its best to meet it head on and to have the courage to dictate your own terms, than to allow yourself to be taken advantage of. A lot can happen when P99 is down!
Current status <Frisky Freelancer Open to New Opportunities, PST>
It happened to come together in a mighty clash last night into today for me and my boss - He reached that point, and cracked. Lets just say he fucked up royally, and this was the perfect stormy situation involving an unstoppable force, meets an immovable object - I was not going to take it any longer.
I'd taken enough abuse and all of the things I had done to go out of my way to appease him which lead to thankless days and frustrated nights had been building up over the course of many months - So in more recently weeks I had been preparing myself, and exploring my "other" suitors in my field of design.
Well needless to say, my former boss says hes sorry for being a douche and he didnt mean all those bad things he's said and that im a good girlfrien... I mean employee.
Anyway, he wants me back that much is obvious. I'm going to keep looking on the horizon for better option's - While I'm glad i'm able to go "Freelancing" on the stretch I'm way happier to be out of the position I was in where I felt I was forced to comply to his wishes and that I had no say in the matter - This made me feel worthless and had a psychological impact on me and my ability to look forward in my career because I was being held back.
I learned a good lesson from all of this, that sometimes standing up for yourself, even when it leads to conflict, is necessary to get where you want to be - This is something I especially needed to do more of but lacked the courage for until recently. Even though the breakup can be hard with periods of insanity, I think I'm better off for it.
Change is inevitable and I think its best to meet it head on and to have the courage to dictate your own terms, than to allow yourself to be taken advantage of. A lot can happen when P99 is down!
Current status <Frisky Freelancer Open to New Opportunities, PST>