How can I stop watching porn?

[SorenVC]

It seems I am addicted to it. I tried to stop multiple times and always failed. Does anyone have a cure for this addiction? Right now I do it like 3 or 4 times a week. I want to stop completely. I think it harms my emotional wellbeing.

[shovelquest]

Just support your local fascist.

[SorenVC]

Just support your local fascist.

What does that mean?

[SorenVC]

I was hoping that you EverQuesters have some secret knowledge on this topic. :D

[shovelquest]

If you can get super addicted to everquest it's like being a heroin addict and you lose your sex drive if you can stay focused.

[loramin]

I think it harms my emotional wellbeing.

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[Reiwa]

How much porn are you watching?

I read somewhere that the harmful use standard is 7-10+ hours per week which to me sounds like a ludicrous amount of porn.

[Ekco]

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Whether it’s porn or any other bad habit, it’s better to come with the focus of: what can I replace this with rather than how do I stop this. Stopping implies a void of unknown, and we fear the unknown. So put something in that hole. Whoops that mighta been the wrongly worded suggestion

The simple and obvious answer is: you could date instead. It’s this thing that for thousands of years has kept our species going before the invention of infinite amounts of naked and fake animated girls at our fingertips. Our brains weren’t really intended for unlimited porn, which is why it messes us up just like our body wasn’t intended or designed to have unlimited amounts of sugar at our fingertips (it used to be a super rarity for the human species) and drugs and all other dopamine sinks

But I’m sure dating is just impossible to do because [reasons], and you can either work on solving those reasons with that capable brain, or come up with some other replacement. But your libido was meant to be filled with human contact, not your hand or your computer screen. So it’s going to always be there nagging, regardless of what other hobby you use to replace porn. Which is why I say that dating should remain an important goal

[Cecily]

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

Oh and stopping porn and especially stopping fapping as often (within reason obviously) tends to improve how attractive you’ll see IRL women AND how horny you will be. I know there’s bro’s that are like nah man, every time I fap I just get hornier, I fap like 82 times a day breugh. That’s cool, for most of us people with different brains than that, generally the longer we go without fapping the hornier we get

And being horny is an advantage on dates, not a disadvantage IMO. That scene in Something About Mary where that friend suggested having a wank before a date is a looooaaad of shiiiit. What you want to have no sexual thoughts so you can sit and talk about video games and fashion and gossip about other boys and then give her a high five and a handshake after the date? Way to friendzone yourself

No you want that horniness driving you to make moves, just don’t be a creeper about it. The hornier you can get before a date the better. You’re going to be anxious as fuck either way I promise, better to be an anxious but having some semblance of lust rather than being anxious and having her be your therapist

[Cecily]

Porn porn porn porn

[Reiwa]

Oh and stopping porn and especially stopping fapping as often (within reason obviously) tends to improve how attractive you’ll see IRL women AND how horny you will be. I know there’s bro’s that are like nah man, every time I fap I just get hornier, I fap like 82 times a day breugh. That’s cool, for most of us people with different brains than that, generally the longer we go without fapping the hornier we get

And being horny is an advantage on dates, not a disadvantage IMO. That scene in Something About Mary where that friend suggested having a wank before a date is a looooaaad of shiiiit. What you want to have no sexual thoughts so you can sit and talk about video games and fashion and gossip about other boys and then give her a high five and a handshake after the date? Way to friendzone yourself

No you want that horniness driving you to make moves, just don’t be a creeper about it. The hornier you can get before a date the better. You’re going to be anxious as fuck either way I promise, better to be an anxious but having some semblance of lust rather than being anxious and having her be your therapist

I get that addiction has a clinical meaning about how much it impacts your life or whatever. But OP seems like he's been tricked by the YouTube into thinking he's a major gooner when he's not anywhere close.

[Ekco]

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[Ekco]

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[NopeNopeNopeNope]

I get that addiction has a clinical meaning about how much it impacts your life or whatever. But OP seems like he's been tricked by the YouTube into thinking he's a major gooner when he's not anywhere close.

Yea unless he’s doing porn marathons a couple x/week seems like pretty “normal” use of average what I suspect all men’s use to be. It’s more than I do, I’ll say that though

Then that still leaves a lot of other problems like possibly messing with standards. An easy way to tell is, do you go out of your way to seek out average or even maybe slightly below average looking women in your choice of porn? Or do you go for the hottest (probably fake or cartoon in the case of a lot of guys) possible women you can find? And if you had to downgrade your porn standards, would you find that disappointing? Or would you even be able to get off? These are rhetorical I am in no way interested in anyone’s answer lol. Just food for thought

I’m sure people disagree but there is no changing my mind that even infrequent or average amounts of porn viewing messes with our idea of standards and what we imagine women’s standards are. Remember that one dude in RnF who wife left him and he spent like 4 or 5 posts theorizing how big the other guy’s dick must be? Yeah, that dude watches way too much porn lol

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

And with society the way it is these days with so few men dating, it’s funny to consider that if I had the power to put a cap on everyone’s porn viewing to where they could still watch as much as they wanted, but it could only be of women they could actually conceivably date IRL in their current position in life

How devastating would that be to so many dudes? Dudes would be offing themselves lol

[Ekco]

Remember that one dude in RnF who wife left him and he spent like 4 or 5 posts theorizing how big the other guy’s dick must be? Yeah, that dude watches way too much porn lol

i miss all the good threads

And with society the way it is these days with so few men dating

dating is as new a concept for our species as the color television in the grand scheme of things, penguins have been practicing monogamy long than we have iirc also

he practice of dating, as it's understood in modern Western culture, is a relatively recent phenomenon, gaining prominence in the 20th century
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you're literally just projecting weird shit. lol. unless the goal is to actually get married and have kids (lol) theirs apps for the other things.

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

i miss all the good threads

Right? We have past overzealous mods chasing too many people away to blame for that

dating is as new a concept for our species as the color television in the grand scheme of things, penguins have been practicing monogamy long than we have iirc also


Well, true, and I’m no history buff but I guess historically in a lot of places women didn’t have the freedom to choose who they married. Things are a bit different now, but that’s no reason to give up, IMO

It’s like that scene in Borat:

“Borat: [while driving] Look, there is a woman in a car! Can we follow her and maybe make a sexy time with her?
Driving Instructor: No, no, no, no, no, no!
Borat: A-why not?
Driving Instructor: Because a woman has the right to choose who she has sex with.
Borat: [stunned] WHAT...? You joke?
Driving Instructor: It must be consensual. How 'bout that?
Borat: Ahahahahaha!
Driving Instructor: That's good, huh?
Borat: [stops laughing] Is not good for me”

[Ekco]

yeah i'm not advocating for a return to raping and pillaging, but there's a lot to be said about pair bonding in in your teens and early 20s, once that ship sails, your options are basically limited to being a step dad or confirmed bachelor

playing house at our age and playing the field is just as weird as anything anyone else is doing

[NopeNopeNopeNope]

And dating is such a dirty word on Reddit too

There’s be soooo many dudes with the same story: Please bro, help me. I’ve fallen in love with my female friend who plays the same games as me on discord. I have had feelings for her for years and I finally told her and she said she only sees me as a friend and now things are weird! I don’t want her out of my life she is one of my closest friends, and I can’t stop thinking about her, what can I do to fix this?

Me: you could date someone else. Then you’d have someone else to focus on AND she’d probably be less concerned about you pushing things if she knows you’re seeing someone else rather than single

Him: fuck you

[Ekco]

there's girls you're friends with, and girls you have sex with

don't ever get em fucking confused.

-Ekco

[shovelquest]

Be careful OP I got off porn and ended up building a nuclear bomb and now I don't know what to do.

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[Reiwa]

I find it commendable that not one of us has taken this to the "I like this kind of the thing" place.

Let's keep it that way.

[Ekco]

i bet i could guess with pretty high accuracy

this is one of those mutual assured destruction things, speaking of nuclear bombs

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[shovelquest]

Help me step bro I’m stuck on Epstein island