Loneliness Is Fatal. Video Games Can Keep Men Alive

[Vormotus]

Just go this article forwarded by a friend ...

Decided to share with everybody here

Much love as usual from the Isthmus :)

Article: (https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a29578572/men-friendships-video-games-loneliness/?utm_source=pocket-newtab) Loneliness is Fatal

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[Donkey Hotay]

To what end.

[BlackBellamy]

To what end.

His friend thinks he's going to kill himself. That's why he sent him the article. Instead of taking care of his brittle state, the OP is sharing this with us, like an innocent yet doomed child.

[Donkey Hotay]

Loneliness Is Fatal, Video Games Can Keep Men Alive

To what end.

[Wonkie]

His friend thinks he's going to kill himself. That's why he sent him the article. Instead of taking care of his brittle state, the OP is sharing this with us, like an innocent yet doomed child.

We are all doomed without Christ.

Hope this helps

[Mblake81]

https://i.imgur.com/JqdOO5U.gif
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[Vormotus]

His friend thinks he's going to kill himself. That's why he sent him the article. Instead of taking care of his brittle state, the OP is sharing this with us, like an innocent yet doomed child.


https://i.imgur.com/YrqB9a0.gif

[Vormotus]

We are all doomed without Christ.

Hope this helps

https://i.imgur.com/IpsuhWn.gif

[Vormotus]

To what end.

If you really want to know, a small history:

Well, my friends and in particular this one have highly stressful jobs.

He is right now in Japan working for a mega corp and he works 21 hours and tries to sleep the other 3.

He is staying now in a bubble hotel due to a very tight budget and has to ask others for charity and food
and he sends me random stuff sometimes, like he walking around in a park or just walking in japan on the streets.

I read the article and decided to share to see if someone else would find it enticing, that is pretty much it.;)

[Cecily]

Haven't read the article yet, but EQ, L2, and P99 probably did keep me disassociated long enough from my inner demons to give myself time to heal. 13 to 33, 20 years, I "knew" I was going to end up killing myself and thought about it constantly. October 2017 to now, I've only been suicidal once, in April, which was extra special bad, but it's been such a nice a change of pace wanting to live. I don't need the video games to block out my thoughts anymore.

[Cecily]

This is interesting. I always felt people (men) bonded more with me than I did with them online. The relationships had a "not real" feeling to them and the bonds were easily broken. I always assumed everyone felt like that, and I've definitely hurt some feelings sharing that observation with my e-friends.

I think the male model, doing things together, isn't how I consider friendship, and the closer online relationships I've had definitely focused on conversations and feelings. I've never played EQ with some of my closest EQ friends.

[Vormotus]

This is interesting. I always felt people (men) bonded more with me than I did with them online. The relationships had a "not real" feeling to them and the bonds were easily broken. I always assumed everyone felt like that, and I've definitely hurt some feelings sharing that observation with my e-friends.

I think the male model, doing things together, isn't how I consider friendship, and the closer online relationships I've had definitely focused on conversations and feelings. I've never played EQ with some of my closest EQ friends.

Glad to hear you feel better.

The way you bond is unique to you and your own personal experiences, so there is never a need to compare how you do it, they are not better or worse , so do not worry about that Cecily. ;)

I found intriguing the article for many reasons, specially as a lot of my friends, including me, escape reality constantly, specially due to loneliness.

Several of them are married , and with kids, yet , for many reasons too long to enumerate, loneliness hit us deeply and frequently.

We cope with several mechanisms and fall in the social safeguard of family and friends, yet the feeling persists.

Work related issues, stress and many other factors are the culprits, yet, gaming has always been a lifesaver of sorts, a stopgap, hence why my overworked friend sent me the article.

On the other issue, I can corroborate that I have never played with my closest rl friends EQ either ;)

There is something so profoundly alien about this elf sim that it only caters to a particular type of people haha.

Also the chatting aspect, talking , sharing ideas is a model I can understand more. I do enjoy talking more than doing things together, goes with the job I guess.

I am the kind of guy that forces my friends to actually talk ... I believe we need to talk more, not our feelings, but anything ...

Communication is key.

I believe that men are suffering in silence and our social support networks do not reinforce the unburdening of this , hence outlets like video gaming are actually quite important, though not necessarily the best way to handle it.

Just a thought :)

As usual much love to everybody! Super hug from the Isthmus!

Small Edit: Got inspired writing this as I am watching Equilibrium in the scene where Bale hears music for the first time. Felt it was a powerful scene ... then the doggo scene omg.

[Tethler]

he works 21 hours and tries to sleep the other 3.



Hope that's an exaggeration. If not, definitely illegal.

[Hoppkins_Wytchfinder]

I used to play EQ with a japanese person who did art for games. No idea what.

They were massivley stressed out, always had headaches, tired and felt sick. Seems EQ was the easiest escapism without having to leave their house. Bare minimum social stuff.

:(

[nostalgiaquest]

Lived in Japan for 5 years working for the Navy. While it's a beautiful country that I miss dearly, below the surface there's massive problems with overwork, racism, sexism, and a failed "honor or death" mentality.

What other culture has a word for literally dying due to overwork. Karoshi.

It's a shame really. That country needs to legalize cannabis for reals.

[Donkey Hotay]

Yeah, they could really use the example set by this community as precisely the behaviors to avoid.

[Vormotus]

Hope that's an exaggeration. If not, definitely illegal.

Well he can keep the rhythm for a day or two, and he actually is pretty desperate for the job, as it is a temporary one but can keep him glued for an even bigger contract, so he gives in 100% and then some more to try to impress the Japanese.

He confessed he is taking some additional drugs to help with energy and output , but nootropics is a field I am not very well versed at, unlike he is.

Also Venezuelans abroad can not afford to be too choosy on their jobs, specially when they have to support family back home or in other countries so they do things like that on occasion, as slave driven as it might be.

The day he sent me the video he was a bit off. He Crashed hard after a couple days but then slept on the weekend and began again, but he finished it already and is back home hoping the Corp will rehire him due to this extremely fast output.

What I find odd though is how there are computer signals that pop up on desktops to remind people they need to stop working, yet if the boss has not left the building they have to remain in their posts.

Even with all that he is in love with the country and culture.